Coming to the table means more than sharing a meal together. It is an opportunity to get in touch with your inner truth, the ability to listen to others to hear their truth, and to work with communication that transforms your relationships to create greater freedom, love, and growth within and with others.
Contacting Your Inner Truth
Contacting your inner truth with the ability to resonate with life-energizing beliefs, discernment, and truth opens the door to positive change in your life. Repetitive negative patterns point to underlying truths related to your need for nurture. Listening to your inner sadness, your need for bonding or respect, fear, or hurt due to life-depleting or limiting earlier experiences in your body-mind system creates more inclusive support for your body-mind system.
“Don’t take anything literally but always look deeper. For example, if you drink too much, what is your soul looking for in the alcohol? If you eat too much, what part of your soul is in need of nourishing? Think poetically and never respond on a surface level.” .~Thomas Moore from Care of the Soul
It is important to be kind to yourself in the midst of situations and circumstances that push these internal buttons, some you might not even have known existed until you look at these daemons (teachers) trying to get your attention. Taking the compassionate journey withinmeans that you listen to these messages not only what your mind is telling you, but what your body is experiencing to create transformation. By doing so, you are bringing to the table the potential for new courage, strength, and discernment related to your life patterns today nourished by the truth that emerges from the insight of other parts of yourself including your adult parts and Higher Self.
Coming to the Table with Your Own Truth
When you realize that you are repeating the same patterns in your life today perpetuated to manage or protect a part of yourself that feels sad, angry, hurt, hate, afraid,abandoned, or betrayed, you allow the awareness of these parts with their messages to be included in your view of what is happening in your life today.
The path to experiencing joy, freedom, and presence starts with looking at places in your life where your body-mind system has held on to the suffering. This suffering is not diminished by placating or wallpapering over the pain from the past. Many times hurt parts might not know or feel like there is a way out, or that there is another option for experiencing life. Your body-mind system acts out the painful experiences in tension, difficulties with boundaries or letting go, inability to sleep, or feeling stuck with physical, emotional, and mental pain.
The important message is that through integrity, transparency, and truth, the experiences of your life through time can benefit from the development of your brain to include higher executive function as an adult, This means that when faced with challenges you can take your time, breathe, and tune in to the parts of yourself that are responding to the present before making a decision about communication or action.
Other parts of yourself that are connected to your creativity, ingenuity, tenacity, and wisdom from life experiences as you became an adult with your Higher or Greater Self are parts of your inner truth. Through acknowledging hurt parts, and connecting to Source even in dire straights today it is possible to update the needs of the parts of the self that feel isolated, scared, hurt, and abandonedwhile responding from your greater self through getting in touch with the needs of these parts. This then frees other parts of yourself to develop more fully.
Bringing Your Truth to the Table with Another Person
Your life energy flow within and between others is dependent on how you come to the table with your perception of yourself. This flowis tempered by how your body-mind system interacts with internal beliefs, attitudes, and responses to what your mind believes is true. Staying open to what else could be true for you or the situation can also expand your awareness.
You are only able to see as much of another person as you are able to see of yourself. Coming to the table with what will sustain your wellness and well-being so that you can let go and heal yourself happens by giving mercy to your feelingsand voice to your needs. By valuing what is true for you, you can also extend mercy, compassion, and empathy to others. This happens because you understand your emotions, take and give with discernment, and offer the same respect and value to your conversations and interactions.
“We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.”~ Thomas Moore
Expressing your truth and hearing the truth of another person can sometimes feel difficult. However, knowing that painful parts of another person might be speaking allows for the opportunity to get to the heart of what else could be true in the situation. It is easier to get to the truth with an understanding between you when you can listen to the other person more fully, and when fear or resistance does not drive the conversation,
Preparing the table for honesty and integrity allows you to slow down, take your time, and the opportunity to take in the words or meaning of what is being communicated. Build your capacity to be present with another person with your body, your attention, your gaze, and your intention to create safety and trust to nurture non-violent communicationbetween both of you. To truly get the core messages, you can ask the other person to repeat back what they heard you say, or for you to repeat back what you heard the other person say to you to create the space for listening to check for understanding.
Taking Care of Your Relationship Energy Circuit
Expression of needs is different from projecting blame and shaming another person. It is also important to consider when and with whom to share your truth. Disagreements can and will happen. When challenges arise, it is important to offer yourself and the other person the opportunity to take some time to sit with what is being expressed or asked. This creates honor and respect for the sacredness of your communication and relationship. You can do this with a Pause for Centering.
The aim and goal of your communications are to access your inner truth to create growth, harmony, and balance in the energy flow within and in your relationship. This allows you to get in touch with what actions, words, or direction you truly need to consider for what is life-energizing for your wellness and well-being.
Kimberly Rex, MS
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Your breathing cycles affect your wellness and well-being. It is important to speak to the importance of finding time to take the benefits of simple breathing meditations you can practice to diminish stress with natural breathing modalities.
Breathe as deeply as you would like to heal. The simple act of taking a relaxed full rhythmic breath cycle is one of the most beneficial actions you can take for your wellness and well-being. On the physical level, regulating your breath improves your digestion, the amount of oxygen that is transported into your blood, and brain function. On the emotional and mental levels, regulating your breath so that you are able to inhale and exhale fully allows you to experience greater calm in the midst of stressful situations and to regulate negative emotional states.
In Resonance Repatterning®, sessions work with breath patterns that are present and related to your issues with frustration, fear, anger, grief, sadness, shock, anxiety, and stress. Sometimes a client’s breath cycle is stuck on the inhale manifesting as holding the breath without an easy exhale. Other times, the client’s breathing pattern might show up with excessive sighing, or shallow breathing.
These limiting breathing patterns originate from different times in your life including birth process interruption of breath, a shock, or trauma, smoking, or even reactions to environmental toxins.
Breath Patterns for Well-being
Get in Touch with Your Breath
The easiest way to determine your breathing pattern is to put one hand on your upper abdomen near the waist and the other in the middle of your chest. If you are breathing properly, the hand on your abdomen should be expanding and contracting with each breath. If you notice that you are constantly breathing solely through your chest, start a daily abdominal breathing practice. You only have to do a few minutes per day to notice a difference. You can also use this technique in a stressful situation.
2.Sea of Tranquility Breathing Meditation
Get in touch with your breath. While taking even breaths for your inhale and exhale, you can massage the center of your chest known as CV17 to relieve anxiety and panic attacks. This point can be found by drawing an imaginary line from the crease of your armpit to the center of your chest. You can apply pressure with your fingers or place your hand in a prayer position with fingers pointing up and your elbows out to the side. Allow them to raise slightly along with your head on the inhale, and return back to a neutral position with your exhale. Exhale slowly through your mouth and let your belly contract as you do this. This will allow your mind and heart rate to move into a more relaxed state.
Stay with this breathing meditation for 2-3 minutes. Practice this a few times a day to bring greater harmony to your body-mind system. This will benefit you when you are anxious, depressed, or need to recover from emotional or physical injury.
Breath Patterns for Wellness
The Sea of Chi BreathingMeditation
Place both hands on your abdomen. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose and breath into your belly. Your hands should rise as your belly rises and there should very little movement in your chest. Research shows that inhaling for 7 seconds and exhaling for 7 seconds can activate the part of your nervous system that calms stress. So as you breathe in, slowly count to 7 and do the same as you exhale. This will entrain your breathing with your nervous system.
2.Inhale for 4 and Exhale for 6 BreathingMeditation
Another breathing exercise for calming both the nervous system and your overworked mind is a timed breath where the exhale is longer than the inhale. When your exhale is even a few counts longer than your inhale, the vagus nerve (running from the neck down through the diaphragm) sends a signal to your brain to turn up your parasympathetic nervous system and turn down your sympathetic nervous system. This breathing pattern can turn down the cortisol and adrenaline response in your body-mind system.
3. Buteyko Breathing Meditation
This breathing pattern will allow your body-mind system to calm down and create relaxation. This is a light breathing exercise that increases nasal nitric acid which enhances oxygen uptake in the blood. Watch a demonstration with this tink.
Aromatherapy to Breathe in for Wellness and Well-being
Another way to receive the benefits of breathing for your wellness and well-being is to use aromatherapy. What you smell is transmitted directly to your emotional brain.
There are many essential oils you can diffuse to support your Nervous System to calm and relax. You can use clary sage when you feel you need to ground yourself, feel like you are spacing out or after a shock, lavender can relieve headaches related to tension and also help you sleep better, citrus oils can relieve anxiety as well help you feel more energized, and vetiver can help you focus on what you need to do next.
You can inhale essential oils in a few ways. 1) Place a few drops on a tissue or paper towel, and then place it in a plastic bag. Open your bag to inhale the scent when you feel anxious or depleted. 2) Diffuse essential oil into the air with a candle or electric diffusers. You can also use your tissue clipped to an air source such as a fan. 3) Add a few drops on a cotton ball or pad to place inside your pillowcase to help with sleep like lavender. 4) Use steam a combination of a few drops of essential oils or plant material of sage, thyme, or rosemary to relieve congestion in a bowl of steaming water. Be sure the water is not boiling or too hot. Place a towel over your head, close your eyes, and inhale the benefits for up to 10 minutes.
You can also use teas and foods to enhance your aromatherapy experience. Eat an orange. Smell the rind of the orange to get the benefits of the oils in the peel to reduce anxiety. Make a citrus tea and inhale the aroma between sips. Drink Earl Grey tea for the calming effects of Bergamot. You can also drink mint tea to create clarity while also supporting your digestion.
Kimberly Rex, MS is a Master Resonance Repatterning® and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach, and Person-Centered Expressive Therapist. She works with people all over the world by phone, online, and proxy during these times.
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Everything is energy, and energy is everything! Your body-mind system is receiving and transforming energy. The natural energy from the sun is converted into the food you eat, and then mobilized by your body-mind system in your emotions, thoughts, actions, and relationships. On a daily basis, you take in color and sound through your senses at specific frequencies (rates of energy vibration).
You experience this in your response to the color of flowers or choice of clothing. You can feel it in your response to music, or through the tone of someone’s voice. You respond to body language and movement. Everything has a frequency. This means that even your business arguments, back pain, joys, fear, and decisions are translating energy. You are absorbing and radiating energy/frequency all of the time.
Let’s take a movie you’ve seen on the big screen that created a strong response. I know I can’t watch a film without moving, laughing, tearing up, or giving meaning to it. How about a movie like JAWS? This is a movie that changed my life even from a long time ago. Before the movie: I enjoyed everything about being in saltwater.After the movie: I have not dared to swim in salt water again. Did it influence my thoughts? My feelings? My actions? You bet! I can still hear the warning music in my brain. The highly charged emotions that I experienced from it created a reaction well beyond the short time in the theater.
Everything is Energy
In the same way, you respond to light, image, and sounds by creating a record in your mind. These frequencies are given personal meaning by comparing incoming information with what is already stored in your system. According to Bruce Lipton, we are being bombarded by frequency information at a rate of 4 billion bits per second. Less than 10% of that information is processed consciously. That means unconscious or unresolved material has a strong impact on your response to life.
Memory patterns create belief filters in your brain. Your conscious mind leads with the response to information. However, your automatic behavior and habitual responses are managed by unconscious beliefs and expectations. It’s literally watching and responding to the same movie over and over again with similar characters, themes, plots, and outcomes!
You are impacted over time by the response you had in your early development through your family’s beliefs and attitudes about life. Any highly charged feeling or event that remained unresolved in your life impacts your system’s response to the present. Your mind continues to filter your need to resolve the past. This leads to repeating patterns in life that affect how you experience life through your emotional, mental, and physical energy patterns. Your resonance (vibratory energy pattern) is what you experience in the world on a daily basis.
Energy is Everything
The Good News: You are wired for success and self-healing. Your body is a map of your life’s experience. This information is stored in your body-mind system in muscles, tissues, organs, and glands stored at the frequency level. The unconscious material of your body can be read through applied kinesiology like an EEG or EKG. This means that your muscles give information regarding where over 90% of that unconscious material is stored.
It’s what you do with this energy that changes your experience of life. If you feel like you are in a movie that continues to pull you into the same life-de-energizing outcome, the choice comes when you decide to write a new outcome or see the opportunity in your life for a change.
Accessing this information is only the beginning. Awareness leads to resolution and reclaiming more life energy for the present. I just noticed a film with similar content to JAWS in the theaters now entitled, PIRANHA! My response to the ad on YouTube.com was updated. First, I know I would not choose to overload my body-mind system with an adrenaline cycle to stimulate an endorphin stress response to build upon the already loaded stressful material in the world today. Second, I have learned natural ways to create endorphin responses through energizing and calming activities to enhance overall needs for balance and harmony. And, third I know that my fear of swimming in the saltwater was in reaction to fear, not reality.
I am able to make different choices today to edit and influence my responses to life that benefit my overall sense of well-being. In essence, it is creating a new movie, experience, and response in positive life-enhancing ways!
You can do this with any life situation. Through the process of Resonance Repatterning®, you take an active role in shifting the plot from fear to more ease, optimism, and empowerment. The frequency energetics of issues, intentions, underlying needs, feeling responses, patterns, and projections beneath the surface hold the key to transformation and opportunities for growth.
How are they transformed? Natural frequencies of color, light, sound, movement, fragrance, breath, and energetic balancing allow your body-mind system to become more conscious. You can then update material to experience new neurotransmitter connections to create coherent frequencies of calm, optimism, love, and joy. This empowers you to experience the greater potential for choice and new possibilities.
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Processing the world today makes it important to balance yourenergy flow. It’s important to be able to reach out, and interact with others, as well as to balance your need for self-care. This energy exchange happens physically, emotionally, mentally, and energetically. One of the many life-enhancing disciplines within Resonance Repatterning® is Polarity Therapywhich works with the concept that everything is energy. When you experience pain, it is a disruption of energy flow in your body-mind-spirit system. Working with the energy circuits within creates balance and harmonizes your chakra system.
Your energy field expands and contracts in the same way your breath cycle expands and contracts. The expansion flow nourishes your body-mind while the inward flow, the relaxation phase, draws the energy back from your expansion phase to your body-mind system to restore and recharge your chakra circuits. Your chakra system’s currents flow out and return to sustain empowerment, strength, and vital life energy as you are connected to your center while also balancing your need to be in the world.
When this flow is interrupted, it’s like waiting in traffic with seemingly no end in sight. When your energy is stuck in the outward phase you expect the world to take care of you, and you want to regain control over your life. When the flow is interrupted in the inward phase, you might beat yourself up for taking this road or choosing this time to travel. In either case, the distress created by immobilization is an attempt to release blocked energy.
Outward Flow Imbalance
When your chakra energy is locked or stuck in the outward phase, behaviors and actions can show up as attempts to be in control, along with a feeling of impatience, frustration, and anger. This can result in difficulty taking responsibility, and blaming others for what is going on. It can make it difficult to make commitments or to move forward with plans or relationships.
Recently, there’s been a huge influx of energy that can lead to a sense of immobilization or fear. On the other hand, the impact could stimulate behaviors and actions to make lots of changes. Either way, the underlying motivation for moving forward, standing still, or retreating is related to pain vs. pleasure. The questions you might ask yourself include “What is driving or limiting my choices right now?” Is it more painful to start a project than to experience the outcome of completing a project?”“What are the long term benefits of making a choice or taking action?” This is the reason there needs to be a balance between the inward and outward phases, especially in decision-makingprocesses.
Inward Flow Imbalance
When the energy phase is interrupted in the inward energy pulsation, your inner world can feel very empty. It can feel difficult to take in nurture. This shows up in exhaustion, feeling spaced out, not feeling grounded, or at ease within your own body. Depression and a feeling of disempowerment can result in an inability to go into action.
While stuck in this phase, you might feel more vulnerable or exposed out in the world. Being around others might feel overwhelming as you absorb the material of others. Being the listening ear to others while not feeling like you can get nurtured creates a need to feel connected in an attempt to fill the void or emptiness, yet can also leave you feeling drained. Getting your need for nurture could mean non-coherent use of food or substances in order to get some form of nurture.
It might also mean that you find yourself blaming yourself, and find yourself in a pattern of negative self-talk. These are indicators that you are feeling separated from taking what is life-enhancing, and this creates disharmony and imbalance in your thinking, behavior, and actions.
When you react to situations and challenges in your life it can sometimes feel difficult to register the origin of these emotional states. A feeling of anxiety, overwhelm or sadness can arrive with intensity out of the blue. The questions are, “Whose stuff is this anyway?” Are the thoughts that create these feelings and beliefs about what I am experiencing related to a “would of, could of, should of? Does it feel like it is something that one of your parents might say or believe?” or “Is this constructive or destructive to my wellness and well-being?”
Connecting Flows
With everything that is happening in the world, consider the possibility that immobilized energy could be bubbling up to the surface and messaging you through your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and actions. Your chakra system is communicating its need for balance through your experience of pain, your feelings, and your sense of feeling at home within yourself and in the world.
Optimal energy flow can be interrupted by environmental toxins, accidents, traumatic experiences, or an imbalance between your chakra centers within your body-mind system. Working with a primary chakra center, a chakra circuit, or related chakra, it is possible to identify and transform interrupted or blocked energetic flow. within and between chakras.
Resonance Repatterning®sessions create harmony and balance within your chakra system. Polarity Therapy based on the work of Randolph Stone is one of the many disciplines available through this work. A session addresses your core energy, the chakras, unresolved energy constrictions, and their consequences. This can show up as a change in the color of the chakras, holes in the chakras, tipping, lack of activity, spin as well as the force of the flow. Your personal session identifies the natural modalities to create more optimal communication throughout your body-mind system.*
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Finding neutral to create positive change in your life is a way to build greater harmony and balance in your body-mind system. When you feel overwhelmed, stressed, or depleted, finding neutral benefits your ability to slow down so you can become aware and choose what you would like to experience within. By doing so, you become more conscious of sensory input, and focus on what is important to you.
Thoughts create emotions. Emotions create responses. The connection between your thoughts and emotions is tempered by internal beliefs and memories that contribute to your experience of life. In any experience, you can go through a range of feelings that allow you to process or resolve what is happening. Emotional states are different in that they can be the direction or undercurrent of what your feelings are responding to over time. It is important to know that you are not your feelings. They are not tattoos. They are expressions of what you are experiencing in the now like waves on the ocean that ebb and flow.
“You are the sky. Everything else-it’s just the weather.”~Pema Chodron
Emotional states are guideposts. They create opportunities for insight. Your response or reaction to any situation is influenced by your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. They are not bad or good, however, they can offer you a map to discover what is underneath self-limiting patterns as well as what creates empowering experiences. Finding neutral allows you to choose how you respond to life comes from your ability to work with emotions by noticing their sense of heaviness or lightness, length of time, depth, repetitive thought patterns, self-talk, or feelings.
Finding Neutral to Create Choice
Like going into an automatic car wash, you go in with the intention to clean or wash your car. When you pull into the space, you are asked to place your car in neutral. The purpose of neutral is to separate the action of the engine from the wheels so that you are not idling, moving forward, or backward without choice. At the same time, you are not in park or stuck.
.For the purpose of working with this metaphor, imagine your time inside a car wash. What is your experience while you wait? Can you find neutral in this experience? Begin by bringing your attention to your breathing. What are you experiencing in this moment? What are you feeling inside? Where are you feeling these sensations?
Now bring your focus to what is happening around you. Notice what you see as the water and brushes sweep over the sides of your car. Are you able to then shift your focus to just noticing the sounds of the water on the car? Now return to focusing on your breath. Get in touch with what feels different even if slightly. Finding neutral can expand your awareness and also press reset on where and what you want to focus on next with your experience.
Dis-empowering or empowering beliefs create different perspectives of life. As an example, staying with the car analogy, let’s say two people are on a road trip. One person looks out the window and sees bad drivers, negative bumper stickers, and roadkill while the other person sees a hawk in the sky, and notices cloud formations, and a rainbow. What’s different? It’s the same road, however, it is a different view. You can imagine that the first person’s body stance and visual field are tense with shallow breathing while the second person might be breathing more fully with eyes wide to take in the beauty of the scenery. There might even be a smile on the second person’s face while there could be a grimace on the first. This illustrates how seemingly the same road trip can be completely different stimulated by particular thoughts and emotions. These, then, trigger physical responses.
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”~Viktor E. Frankl
Read more about Viktor Frankl’s thoughts on this topic related to Resonance Repatterning here.
Finding Neutral by Working with Your Reticular Activating System
What if you could use finding neutral to choose your attitude and your own way? The Reticular Activating System (RAS) is scattered throughout your brain stem in the Reptilian or Survival Brain. It functions as the gatekeeper of sensory information allowed into your consciousness through selecting what is most important. This influences what you are awake, alert to, and aware of in your environment.
The RAS manages the transition between levels of consciousness and controls what is prioritized with a focus on what is important through the lens of your present reality.
The Reticular Activating System influences your fight or flight response, sleep and wake transitions, motor control, the experience of pain, muscle reflexes, focus, attention, goal-setting, and habituation. The nerve fibers of the RAS region make connections between your body and mind. For the RAS to be triggered, signal activity needs to occur in your sensory pathways, that are connected with it. Your thoughts, emotions, and chemical responses are continuously working with learned behaviors, habits, and conditioning to contribute to your interpretation of sensory input.
It turns out that your Reticular Activating System does not know the difference between what is actual, what is created by triggers from the past or new triggers you create for it. The experience of imagining being inside a car wash is a great example. Neurotransmitters and neuro-associations, the links between sensory input, your thoughts, and emotions create your experience. The fact is that you can find neutral to create new neural pathways to allow a shift in energy levels, neuro-chemicals, and brain states. This happens by using your inner software to create positive change.
Finding Neutral with What is Important to You
Like the RAS, you can consciously choose to ask yourself, “What is important to me?”“What is important to me to create a life of meaning?” “What feels like it no longer needs to have a place in my life?” “What is no longer serving my Highest Good?” “What is limiting me?” and “What lessons have I learned that is important to my life today? And tomorrow?” Consider these questions with compassion for yourself. Expanding your awareness with the narrative of your beliefs, attitudes, and thoughts will begin to shift the story your body-mind system is responding to in the present and begin the process of creating new pathways each time.
Finding Neutral in Your Body-Mind System
Your life story has evolved through different stages over time. Some of the chapters might seem more pleasant than others. However, in each chapter, there are memories that can bring happiness, sadness, hurt, grief, or wonder. Take what is most important from these pages of your life.
Some of these memories intertwine sadness with joy. That’s okay. You need these emotions to know the depth of love, caring, and needs while strengthening your values and connection to your True Self. Reframing your past experiences unlocks freedom and understanding. Take what will serve you in your life today, and create new pages with the gifts of these lessons.
Changing your triggers or cues that cause you to spiral down into negative emotions or thoughts creates proactive benefits to build new patterns. After you take inventory of your goals and positive intentions for what is important in your life, you can also look at what keeps you from moving forward with them. Many times triggers and cues from the past can keep you stuck. There might be environmental, social, or beliefs about your roles in life that contribute to guilt or shame imprinted into your belief system. Examining your roles, your beliefs, and self-limiting responses to life build awareness about what you need to move forward.
As an example, let’s consider music that you are playing on a road trip. Let’s say you are listening to music, and you hear a song that brings you back to an earlier time in your life when you felt sad because it reminds you of a person or relationship. This is a trigger. It can space you out, change your mood, and even make you cry. Negative triggers like sound, environment, smell, or seeing something associated with a painful memory can change how you feel. These triggers are different for everyone. Pain can keep you stuck in places unable to start or move forward with the next steps. So creating life-energizing cues can build a path toward more optimal positive and sustainable change.
This allows you to choose where you focus and place your attention when you feel overwhelmed or depleted. Knowing that you can count on positive actions like getting in touch with your breath, working with an empowering memory, change your body stance to change internal states is beneficial to your body-mind system.
Getting to know what works best for you to shift your focus naturally builds the pathways to positive change. Talking with someone to listen to you on the phone, eating whole foods that nourish your neurotransmitters, taking a walk in nature in the woods or the beach, dancing, or listening to music that calms or inspires you are all examples of ways to shift your focus to life-empowering emotional states, thoughts, and actions to allow you to experience more life-energizing states.
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Coming to your senses when you have been feeling frustrated, angry, afraid, or anxious is beneficial to your wellness and well-being. It’s important to know that you can neutralize and shift your body-mind response by working with your 5 senses. By doing so you create short and long-term changes in choosing what you want to experience in your life.
Coming to Your Senses with Sight, Hearing, Touch, Taste, and Smell
Your 5 senses allow you to experience the world in different ways. Working with the 5 Element and Meridian System allows you to work with each of your senses. Each of the 5 Elements includes one of these primary senses and includes primary emotions, color, sound, smell, taste, and touch.
As an example, let’s consider Wood Element which is prevalent at this time of year. It is at this time when everything is growing, and also a time of year related to “Spring Fever” or acting without thinking. When this element is out of balance, it is important to work with stabilizing the energy that is presenting itself. The primary color of Wood Element is green, the emotion is anger, the sound is shouting, and is expressed through the movement of the ligaments. The smell is rancid and the taste is sour.
Your response to life starts with your thoughts which create emotions. It is important to register the connection between the information your body is giving you to be able to restore greater harmony and balance.
For example, sight or vision is primarily related to the Wood Element and your Gall Bladder and Liver. What is important to note about the relationship between your vision, anger and the organs related to Wood Element is that you can work with all of your 5 senses to bring about greater harmony and balance.
Everything is frequency. Your body-mind system responds to color, sound, movement, aroma, touch and taste. This means that input into your body through your senses can either nourish or deplete your life energy.
Using the example of Wood Element, your Liver and Gall Bladder and anger, accessing your senses to create greater wellness and well-being would look like the following:
Sight: When you are angry, your eye muscles tense up and the ability of your eyes to take in light is diminished. This means that your body-mind system limits the intake of energy for breathing, movement, cellular function, blood flow, adrenaline spikes, executive function, and memory. Over time, anger can overwhelm your system with anxiety and lead to depression.
Hearing: Anxiety and depression are fueled by fear. In Chinese Medicine, Water Element related to your kidneys and bladder, fear and hearing, feeds Wood Element or anger. It is not unusual when you feel afraid or angry to experience an inability to listen to what is going on around you. Coming to your senses can happen by listening to calming music or getting in touch with your breath.
Take a Mindful Walk in nature. The colors at this time of year paint a palette of nourishment and calm. The greening of plants, the colors of flowers, birds, and pollinators are all reminders of life on purpose. You are working with your tendons and muscles related to Wood Element while taking in the support of the Earth as you walk.
Coming to Your Senses Mindful Walk Audio
3. Touch: Acupressure points combined with steady deep breathing and meditation allow your body-mind system to reset to create more optimal life energy flow in your system where you feel stuck.
a) Let Go Point with Lung 1 on each side. This point is located under the collarbone, in the depression adjacent to the breastbone. You can treat both sides of your body by crossing your hands over your chest. Use your middle finger to contact Lung 1 on each side. Remember to breathe. As you inhale, slightly raise your elbows. As you exhale, bring your elbows back down. Continue in this process for 2-3 minutes. Just let it all go and relax.
b) Calm yourself with Sea of Tranquility/Conception Vessel 17 on the center of your breastbone, in the indentations or dips of the sternum bone. Place your hands together in a prayer position, and push your thumbs into the center of your chest. As you breathe in, feel your chest rise while your elbows rise up. As you breathe out, allow your elbows to come back down. This will relieve anxiety and bring you into your center.
c) Ground yourself with 3 Mile Point/ Stomach 36 located below the knee, on the outside surface of the lower leg. Sitting on a chair or edge of your bed, put your feet on the floor. Press your middle finger in contact with ST 36 on each leg. You can rest your elbows on your thighs as you do so. Get in touch with your breath and on the inhale, slightly lift your head. On the exhale, return your head slightly to a neutral position. Continue for a few moments. Notice how you feel more grounded and energized.
Acupressure point sequences are best done 2- 3 times a day for a few minutes followed by deep relaxation benefits your thinking and emotional response to stress.
4.Movement: The term fight or flight refers directly to the relationship between Water Element and Wood Element. You are wired for survival. Your nervous system can negatively react through panic attacks, tactile defensiveness, or numbing. Rewiring your body-mind system from the effects of trauma and habitual patterns is vital to access alternative responses through natural release with stress-reduction behaviors and actions.
Stretching and squatting relate directly to the Wood Element. It is good to know that exercise has positive effects on anxiety, depression, and mood regulation.
5.Taste: Anger and fear negatively affect digestion related to the secretion of adrenaline. Fear shifts energy from your gut to your muscles in reaction to sensed danger. Anger increases stomach contractions that can lead to upper abdominal pain. It reduces colon contractions resulting in constipation. Fear loosens your bowels. Anger binds you up.
When you are feeling angry, your blood rushes to your head. Drink a glass of water to filter your blood circulation down through your body. Slow down when you eat, look at your food, notice the shape, color, and texture of your food. These are mindful ways to bring your attention to your senses in a nourishing way. Chew your food thoroughly and taste what you are eating. There is a dense nerve network in your mouth that actually calms you down when you take your time.
In addition, what you eat will determine how you feel. Choosing foods that create calm in your system will benefit your sense of well-being in the world.
Foods that nourish your digestions and cleanse your liver and gall bladder stabilize and restore balance in your body-mind system. Sour-tasting foods and greens are beneficial for Wood Element. Choose foods with stalks and eat sprouts. Bok choy, chard, broccoli rabe, spinach, asparagus, and celery are examples. Eat citrus fruit, sour plum, pineapple, or starfruit. Incorporate sour foods like sourdough bread or crackers, vinegar, yogurt, kimchi, pickles, sour yogurt, sauerkraut, and olives into your diet.
Season your food with anise, basil, bay, caraway, dill, fennel, ginger, marjoram, parsley, peppermint, saffron, sage, and turmeric in your cooking. Add them to grains like quinoa, amaranth, brown rice, millet, buckwheat, or wheat. Add them to lentils, lima beans, and split peas. You can also snack on sunflower seeds or cashews to stabilize and calm your system.
5.Smell:Aromatherapy is a wonderful way to shift your emotions, thoughts, and physical responses. The essential oil to create a greater sense of optimism and hope include lemon, grapefruit, coriander, and Ledum.*
Field of Lavender
Lavender, Chamomile, and Bergamot are also great choices for calming your nervous system and can be used to make teas. These scents are readily available when you include them in your cooking. Their benefits include regulating your mood, detoxification, diminishing stress with greater relaxation. *Be sure to use a carrier oil such as olive, almond, jojoba, or avocado oil when placing essential oils on your skin.
Resonance Repatterning® sessions work with your 5 senses to create greater harmony and balance in your body-mind system. The resonance muscle-checking system identifies your specific needs easily and naturally to benefit your overall wellness and well-being. This allows you to experience tangible and sustainable positive changes in your life.
Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world by Skype, by phone, online, and by proxy.
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