Jan 2, 2020

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Empower Your Positive Intentions for the New Year

As we move into the new year we often set resolutions for ourselves. This is an especially good time to consider how to empower your positive intentions for tangible and sustainable success. Experience an Empower Your Positive Intentions for the New Year Session to create sustainable and tangible positive changes in your wellness and well-being.

Creating Solutions from Resolutions

Traditionally New Year goals are called resolutions. However, these goals are usually intentions without long-term solutions. In order to create new solutions for realistic and long-term positive change, Resonance Repatterning sessions get to the root of what you need to create new awareness, vital energy and the momentum to experience new possibilities and opportunities for growth. As is true for the beginning of any journey, knowing where you’re starting is vital to know how to reach your destination. Awareness is the first key to plotting your course and creating a road map.

The metaphors of a crossroad, fork in the road and turning point illustrate that valuable information can be gained through gathering the harvest of the year passed in the lessons by integrating these events, relationships, and challenges.

We must accept where we are before we know what we may become.- Anonymous

1) Crossroads: This is a true starting point. In the same way, you would get directions from Google Maps, you must first identify your starting point. The crossroad is the meeting place of your appointments with people, places, and opportunities. In looking back at this last year you might notice how some things started then fizzled, resolved, remained the same, or needed a change in direction.

fork in the road

2) Fork in the Road: As you become aware of insights from this past year, you can begin to see where forks in the road emerged due to your wish for new opportunities and possibilities in your life. There is always a point of choice in every situation. You can either resonate with the chaos of a problem that keeps you feeling powerless, overwhelmed, hopeless or discontented, or take the fork in the road that offers a new perspective or opportunity to the problem.

When you resonate with a new possibility, you experience life through a deeper connection to love, support, joy and feel more empowered as you move through the changes that are necessary to manifest your positive intentions. This sets the stage for better wellness and well-being in the process of making a change!

3) Turning Point: Finally, a turning point is created with your choice to empower your intentions with the resources, skills, acceptance, and motivation needed to move your intentions into positive action. The turning point comes when you resonate with life-energizing feelings, thoughts, and beliefs that will empower you through the manifestation of your goals.

This is your personal invitation to benefit from a Resonance Repatterning session to empower your positive intentions for 2020. Empower your relationships, new projects, business, sense of purpose in life and your well-being with a session to start the new year out in a positive direction!

Empowering Your Positive Intentions for 2020
Kimberly Rex, MS

Contact Kimberly Rex, MS with questions about setting up your personal Empower Your Positive Intentions for 2020 at https://www.windowstotheheart.net/contact/

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Dec 29, 2019

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Letting Go to Create Something Good with Your Life

At this time of year, traditionally, there is a collective sense of both endings and beginnings. You might find yourself making a ritual of letting go of or throwing out items, considering stopping a habit, or looking at what has kept you in patterns that do not seem to change.

There is a big difference however in the process of letting go and throwing things out. Letting go is a process of creating space within that builds greater harmony in what life has presented over time. It implies a relationship with what you are presented with instead of toughing it out, manipulating, being the victim, the rescuer or the perpetrator. Letting go allows you to create something good with your life.

Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.~Herman Hesse

Throwing out things that are no longer serving your spiritual growth is different than throwing out a broken vase or ripped pants. Throwing out can literally be a place of denial, inability to work with, or learn from a situation or relationship. While taking care of your life energy is healthy, throwing out the lesson from a situation or relationship can keep you in the gerbil wheel of repetition. In these cases, throwing out the lesson is not really letting go.

At the Still Point

It is really unconscious negative patterns that keep you in circular dead-end pathways. The false hope of getting your genuine needs met in a situation or relationship that brings you back to your original negative pattern without internal positive change leads to repeating the cycle over and over.


Getting to a place where you can start to work with the repetitive pattern means you need to call upon your body, mind, and spirit. Mindfulness and time to consider what is happening within can lead you to a greater sense of grounding and homeostasis. It is only in this place that your inner wisdom and energy can collect for reviewing what is going on, and then allow you to consider the next steps.

“At the still point of the turning world. Neither flesh nor fleshless;
Neither from nor towards; at the still point, there the dance is,
But neither arrest nor movement. And do not call it fixity, 
Where past and future are gathered. Neither movement from nor towards,
Neither ascent nor decline. Except for the point, the still point,
There would be no dance, and there is only the dance.”
~ T S Eliot

Family Systems work is one of the many disciplines in Resonance Repatterning. Modalities work with creating order within your system so you can experience the freedom to face life and do something good with it. Doing something good relates to giving dignity to all of the members of your system by allowing them to take responsibility and place so you can do the same with your own life.

Widening the circle of your beliefs so that you can explore new possibilities in your life is one way to explore new emotions, responses, and interactions with the world around you. Knowing that the circle of life through generations has brought you here allows you to expand your awareness.

From Circle to Maze to Spiral

Maze image from Wikipedia.org

The questions we ask ourselves from time to time like “Why do I keep going through this in my mind?” “Why does this keep happening or coming up?” point to the way we are interacting with the material. Considering events, relationships, and emotional anchors to the past can leave you feeling like you have not solved the puzzle, and have made no progress in your growth process. It can leave you feeling like you are lost in a maze.

Letting go of the idea that the material from the past is backtracking, an impossible puzzle, or circular, consider it as a spiral.

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The spiral is a spiritualized circle. In the spiral form, the circle, uncoiled, has ceased to be vicious; it has been set free. ~Vladimir Nabokov

This can show up in your beliefs about a relationship or your self. You can become more deeply aware of your innocence and fragility in the past with compassion. This allows you to free yourself from judgment or blame so that you can use this information for healing your greater connection to self. Letting go, in this case, creates new ways of seeing choice, and for opportunities in how you can move more securely into your life today.


I once met a woman at a Resonance Repatterning® Conference who told her story of visiting the Chartres Cathedral Labyrinth in France. She walked the labyrinth with a question in her heart. When she finally reached the center, she met a man with whom she spent the rest of the day in conversation. She described the meeting as a spiritual appointment with him. They each walked the labyrinth with a question in their own hearts and met at the center at exactly the same time. They both learned something from each other related to the question they held in their hearts as they walked the labyrinth that day.

Appointments with life can also include being thrown off the path in challenging situations. These situations can be opportunities for a point of choice for spiraling down into greater non-coherence or spiraling up into greater awareness of your inner strengths and values. No matter what the situation, person or problem that shows up in your life, it is an appointment that can lead to a greater sense of feeling whole while integrating parts that have been excluded or neglected with greater love, attention, and expression.

New Pathways to Wholeness

In a workshop with Jean Houston at a Humanistic Psychology Conference, she compared a kind of schizophrenia or fragmented parts not yet integrated or available to work within the body-mind system to what she phrased as polyphrenia. Polyphrenia creates a wider and more inclusive space for taking the information and lessons from your spiral journey through life to heal, acknowledge and integrate the lessons from your life experiences so you can use that wisdom for your life today.

The point of a maze is to find its center. The point of a labyrinth is to find your center. New pathways to wholeness are created when you let go of the resistance, guilt, resentment, self-pity, anger, negative judgments and regrets. This happens with an acceptance that your life path includes spiritual discovery with challenges along the way.

The journey you take in life is like a labyrinth. The labyrinth includes the spiral and circle together. A labyrinth is a metaphor for your own spiritual journey that includes all kinds of appointments, twists, turns, and wanderings through life. It is a pathway that starts with the still point to focus and let go of resistance to an expected outcome. By walking mindful of your experience, it leads you to your center. By taking the inspiration and insight, this creates a widened circle of awareness. This awareness can then be applied to your life with what you have learned in your center. Letting go and learning along the way creates new pathways of experience with grace, compassion, and deeper understanding.

Willingness to become more greatly accepting and aware creates the pathway back out into the world with the gems of insight from your journey within. Making space for your feelings and experiences with what they are telling you informs you of what you want to create based on your inner needs and how to live these values in action. This leads you on the return path with what you have learned towards a greater sense of life purpose, meaning, and feeling of doing something good with your life.

Walking a labyrinth is just one of many ways to move into your center. Meditation, taking time for your self, getting in touch with your breath, mindful movement, drawing, journaling or getting into nature can all be ways of reflecting on what is going on in your life right now.

Kimberly Rex, MS

Resonance Repatterning® sessions get to the root of what you need to experience a positive and sustainable change in your life. Your body is a map of your life’s experiences. It is through working with this information that transformation through the connection to your family system’s patterns can be healed. By doing so, you gain awareness, a greater sense of ease, peace and author-ship for your life.

Contact Kimberly Rex, MS to set up your personal Resonance Repatterning session by phone, Skype or in-person here: https://www.windowstotheheart.net/contact/

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Dec 11, 2019

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Winter Movement for Life Repatterning

Life is energy in motion. Without movement, we cannot take in the vital energy of light. Light is an essential nutrient for your wellness and well-being. Absorbing life-energizing light creates more ease of movement. within your body-mind system. Movement creates more light, better mood, and vision. When you move less, you take in less light into your body-mind system. You need movement for life.

The dark months can create this kind of imbalance. Fewer daylight hours and cold temperatures limit your ability to take in natural light and motivation to move. This lack of light and movement can leave you feeling de-energized, depressed, or frozen.

The Winter Movement for Life Repatterning process creates ways to integrate coherent light and movement to benefit your specific wellness and well-being needs.

Light and Movement Work Together

Your eyes allow you to give meaning to your experiences. You move towards or away what attracts you or away from what does not attract you, or from what feels dangerous based on how much you are able to see.

The movement of your eyes gives you far-point capacity so you can scan the horizon to explore new possibilities that interest you. Near-point vision allows you to look at details more accurately.

When there is tension in one or both of your eyes it limits the amount and quality of light you take in. This leads to more tension in the rest of your body. The relationship between your eyes and body impacts how you feel and experience life.

Moving relieves tension and affects how you think and feel. Movement creates endorphin production, and full and open breathing while harmonizing the energy flow throughout your body. This improves flexibility and decreases pain. Movement stimulates the flow of light through your eyes and expands your peripheral vision. Movement and light support staying in touch with your feelings, interacting with others, for connection, bonding, and pleasure.

Register for Your Winter Movement for Life Repatterning

This is your personal invitation to take part in this 60-minute personal Winter Movement for Life Repatterning. This process works with your body-mind connections to empower your life energy, vision, and flexibility in movement. The process will work with the tension and stress in your body related to limiting patterns in your life. The session will transform limiting beliefs and feelings that affect your vision and mobility. This will allow you to experience a greater sense of freedom of choice, expanded vision, and sense of well-being.

Register with the LINK below to set up your session time and date:

Movement for Life Repatterning

The Solstice Group Movement for Life Repatterning took place on December 21, 2019. Find out about future group repatterning event from Windows to the Heart Repatterning with LINK below.

Kimberly Rex

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Dec 11, 2019

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How Emotions Inform Your Life for Wellness and Well-being

Emotions inform your life for wellness and well-being. When your body-mind system perceives stress, it can respond with or without tension. This is based on the learning you received in early childhood related to attachment, safe expression of feelings such as anger, grief, joy or frustration.

You respond to life based on how you experienced what was happening to your parents or between your parents. An infant or small child pick up when their parent is stressed or unable to be emotionally present. When this happens, the small child learns how to repress basic needs to compensate for the need to attach through inhibiting or stopping the expression of emotions to not lose that bonding.

Abuse or neglect in families can show up as physical, emotional mental or even at the spirit level. If your parents were unable to give you the nourishment you needed to feel loved, or were unable to witness you and acknowledge your emotions to support your emotional development, this impacts how you create relationships and respond as you go through life.

Your survival and emotional brains continue to influence your behavior responses today. The template of your earlier experiences and family system rules about acceptable emotional response creates unconscious patterns for attempting to get your basic needs met in your relationships with others.

According to Dr. Gabor Mate, stressful childhood conditioning creates confusion about boundaries that can result in the inability to engage in healthy fight or flight responses. This repression of the ability to be assertive leads to a state of helplessness.

The imbalance and confusion within your body-mind system can lead to a belief that it is more important to meet the needs of others than take care of yourself based on your stressful early childhood relationships.

When your body-mind is imprinted with unconscious limiting beliefs, attitudes and thought patterns, this leads to relationships and body responses that represent unmet life or spirit level needs.

When your emotions are repressed, you are unable to work with them to inform you about what is happening within your body, or you lose your ability to discern situations and relationships that are depleting or toxic to your emotional well-being. It is then, also, that your immune system has more difficulty discerning what is self and what is not-self to create healthy boundaries.

Emotions are a vital part of your PNI (Psychoendoneuroimmunological) System which includes the connections between your emotional, nervous, immune and hormonal mechanisms. This means that the impact of stress on your emotions relates directly to your nervous system, hormonal and immune response affecting your health and sense of well-being. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychoneuroimmunology

What you experience emotionally influences your neurotransmitter, hormonal and immune system responses. Repressed emotions can have a negative impact on overreaction or depletion of healthy internal systemic responses. Over time this can lead to the destruction of internal resources to effectively deal with immunity, vital energy levels, and health.

Mental tensions, frustrations, insecurity, aimlessness are among the most damaging stressors, and psychosomatic studies have shown how often they cause migraine headaches, peptic ulcers, heart attacks, hypertension, mental disease, suicide, or hopeless unhappiness. ~Hans Selye

Disorder in your body-mind system results over time with an inability to discern true feelings, danger, or personal needs leading to exhaustion, depression, addiction, disease, and self-destructiveness.

Emotions inform your life and response to it. It is what you do with the information that emotions offer you that creates an opportunity for essential insight, expression and life-enhancing body-mind system response. Accessing your emotions through your body wisdom is a vital skill for creating greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

According to psychologist Ross Buck, there are three levels of emotional response. This is how your body-mind system signals and reacts to what is happening to you and around you to resolve stress. By tuning in to what is happening inside, what you observe your body is doing, and what feelings you are experiencing, you can begin to build the foundation for conscious self-care.

  1. Notice physiological changes in your body including your heart rate, breathing patterns and blood pressure. When your body experiences emotional stress, the muscles in your eyes contract, your stomach can become irritated and your muscles tighten for “fight or flight.” Notice where you feel the tension in your body, and where you feel numb. These signals can guide you to acknowledge your stress. It is an invitation to work with stressful situations or to explore healthy self-care.
  2. Observe body language to feel and express emotions through gestures, facial expressions, mannerisms, and posture. Your body-mind system responds in this powerful way when interacting and bonding with others. The expression on a person’s face or the way your body is held can give you an enormous amount of sensed information. If you are not sensing what is happening in your own body, it becomes difficult to feel and read other people and life situations. Make time to tune in to how your body is letting you know how you are holding your self together, protecting, expressing or showing you where you stand.
  3. Identify your subjective awareness. Tuning in to how you feel is key to creating a connection between your emotions and your body’s response. Do you feel angry, happy, sad, frustrated, hurt, tired, hungry, lonely, or scared? This allows you to draw upon what your body-mind system is telling you about your experience now. It creates the possibility to work with and respond to the need for authentic self-care. If you notice that you experience the same kind of emotional stress over and over, it is pointing to an unmet need or systemic root that deserves your time and awareness.

Resonance Repatterning® sessions get to the root of what you need to experience a positive and sustainable change in your life. Your body is a map of your life’s experiences. It is through working with this information that transformation through the connection to your family system’s patterns can be healed. By doing so, you gain awareness, a greater sense of ease, peace and author-ship for your life.

Contact Kimberly Rex, MS to set up your personal Resonance Repatterning session by phone, Skype or in-person here: https://www.windowstotheheart.net/contact/

Re-pattern your life to experience greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

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Nov 14, 2019

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Respecting and Honoring Your Own Life

At this time of year, harvest and Thanksgiving time, it can be an invitation to look at respecting and honoring your own life with all the factors that came together to bring you to where you are now. This includes your life experiences, your parents, and the lifetimes of ancestors who came before you who through love, trials and tribulations made it possible for you being here. Showing this kind of respect for life is a beautiful way to harvest the lessons from the past with gratitude to create new possibilities for your life and those of others.

Respecting and Honoring Your Earlier Experiences

Over tens of thousands of years, the brains of humans have changed to become better able to see both the big picture as well as the details. However, the hard-wired Nervous System is designed to keep you safe in the midst of any seeming “danger,” and this alarm system gets activated when you don’t resolve the original unresolved issue or memory imprint. For this reason, it is vital to have respect for your evolution as a human both personally and collectively when considering the experiences of change you have gone through in your life.

Your earlier experiences as a little one, a teenager, young adult and so on build the foundation for what you believe to be true in your life. What you believed as a little one is stored in your body-mind system in your survival brain. Year by year this gets translated into your emotional brain. Until your thinking brain becomes fully developed, around age 25, your responses to the world are primarily through the lens of emotion and reaction to the big world of uncertainty.

This means that unresolved negative earlier experiences in your life can still have a residence in your unconscious originating from a time in your life where you were not yet able to communicate your needs pr figure out how to take care of them. As an example, an infant can scream when hurt, however, he or she cannot yet say, “No,” “Stop,” or “I need a hug.” And, if an adult did not step in to help you calm or protect you, that unmet need with the stress continues to reside in your unconscious. Stored in your Nervous System, your body and mind continue to resonate with these emotions, thoughts, and attitudes that create automatic stress reactions in your life as an adult. This is the reason it is so important to acknowledge that these unresolved beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, and reactions you experience today might be related to your early development.

Respect for these experiences gives you a window into the underlying material that keeps trying to get to the surface through difficult relationships, anxiety, depression, conflict or frustration. Knowing that negative earlier experiences in your life will attempt to raise the alarm to protect and manage your emotions allows you to use that information to create positive change. This, in turn, creates greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

It is then possible to transform unmet needs to create more coherent beliefs, attitudes, thoughts, and patterns. Respect for yourself creates the ability to listen and take care of your need for positive change for your health, relationships and sense of well-being.

Respecting and Honoring Your Parents and Ancestors

Know that patterns in your life are the patterns your parents and family delivered to you and through you through birth, training, place, and culture you were born. 80% of the patterns in families are unconscious. This unconscious palette is what you have to work with as you go through life. For thousands of years, we, as humans have functioned in tribes to survive. Tribes experienced wars, drought, famine, migrations, illness, poverty and loss. However, it is through their efforts to survive that you were loved into being. Your palette for creating your life is colored with these emotional and survival efforts. It is only with respect for the love and difficulties experienced by your parents and ancestors that you can work with this material. By doing so, you create new patterns for your family and your descendants.

History doesn’t repeat itself, but it often rhymes. ~Mark Twain

If you take the information from your Family System, it allows you to take the lessons from your parents and ancestors. This happens when you discern how these patterns keep you feeling stuck, frustrated, upset or anxious. This creates the opportunity to become aware of its relevance in feeling overwhelmed, powerless, hopeless or disconnected.

Identifying the automatic pilot of negative emotions, attitudes, and reactions to life through Resonance Repatterning® sessions gives your body-mind system access to the unconscious material through your Nervous System connected to every tissue, organ, and gland in your body. This includes the material stored in your DNA and RNA, your vision and your Family System patterns.

Sessions create the benefit of aligning with the coherent information needed to heal unmet needs and calm your body-mind system for life-enhancing choices. This happens when you resonate with taking your mother and father exactly the way they were, coherent and non-coherent, so you can work with the information you took in, and out of respect allow your parents to take responsibility for their own destiny. This is done with honor and respect that translates into working with your own needs for coherent nurture and vision for life within your own mothering and fathering aspects. This allows you to choose greater resonance with self-care that benefits greater integrity in your own wellness and well-being.

For more on how parental and ancestral patterns impact your life: http://www.windowstotheheart.net/honoring-the-messages-from-all-your-relation/

Respecting and Honoring Your Teachers and Mentors

In the same way that it is important to take your mother and father, if you do not have the ability to take the information or acknowledge teachers and mentors, you do not gain what they have to give you. If you resonate with arrogance towards them you will be unable to learn from them or feel their support in nurturing new information that can lead to your ability to consider new possibilities. Taking meaning from the lessons of your life allows you to consider new horizons.

Below is a video of Fred Rogers, who studied child development, in an interview about his book that speaks to what he learned over 30 years of working with children. His message is to acknowledge and take care of your feelings through acceptance for exactly where and who you are right now. By doing so you give value to your experience and to who you are deep inside.

In this video, he gives an interview about his book, The World According to Mr. Rogers, one that all of us could benefit from hearing no matter where we are in the process of challenge or sense of accomplishment in your life.

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”~The Little Prince

Respecting and Honoring Others

When you are able to heal and restore a greater sense of well-being and author-ship in your own life this means that you have a wider vision for life. This opens the possibility for greater discernment and choice. The new movie, “A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood” based on Tom Junod’s 1998 Esquire article titled “Can You Say…Hero?” * is about applying these principles to family relationships, in healing childhood trauma through acceptance, patience, kindness, forgiveness, and humility.

When you resonate with greater choice and vision for life through listening and seeing individual expressions as just one way of seeing the world, you are better able to have empathy for others. You can only see as much of another to the degree you are able to see within yourself.

When you resonate with permission to be loving and also balance that with self-care, you are able to express your joy and respond to grief, acknowledge your need for safety, trust, and grounding, and sometimes feel confused. This permission to observe, feel and acknowledge your needs allows you to work with the innate wisdom of your body-mind system.

Like a GPS you are then better able to choose and connect with others in a way that creates mutual respect, power, and life-enhancing connections. Through these connections, the ripple effect of beneficial mutual empathy expands the wellness and well-being benefits for everyone.

*LINK to Tom Junod’s article, “Can You Say…Hero?” https://www.esquire.com/entertainment/tv/a27134/can-you-say-hero-esq1198/

I’d like to invite you to explore how Resonance Repatterning can make a difference in your life.  Experience a session by phone, Skype or in-person with Windows to the Heart Repatterning.  Set up a session with Kimberly Rex here: Contact Page

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