Working with Your Parts Creates Greater Wholeness

Working with your parts creates greater wholeness and connection within your body-mind-spirit system.  Each part of yourself holds information that can impact other parts of your system. This affects the current energy flow of your life today and influences your response to life tomorrow. This is why it is important to work with the physical, emotional, mental, and spirit levels of your body-mind-spirit system

Family Systems created by Bert Hellinger is offered within Resonance Repatterning.*  A discipline outside of Resonance Repatterning® I have studied over time is called Internal Family Systems (IFS), created by Richard Schwartz, PhD. This discipline works with Parts Theory and identifies how your Inner Child Parts play an important role in managing your life as an adult. Unresolved issues from early childhood or teen years can still control your emotions, behaviors, and actions, even if they are reactions from past traumatic experiences. According to Dr. Schwartz, “There are no bad parts.” They have something to offer to experience a greater sense of wholeness. In  working with them with The Self, your system has the potential to become more self-actualized.

This article will look at the roles of different parts that hold the information related to your body-mind-spirit system’s  pain or trauma. Both Resonance Repatterning, which works with Earlier Experiences, and Internal Family Systems Parts Theory work with these goals. The wording within Parts Theory is beneficial in that it empowers your ability to free parts that no longer work for the life you’d like to create as an adult, while at the same time introducing the child parts to your adult parts. Your Functional Adult Self Part champions your ability to provide support and self-care for your life in a more coherent way  in your journey toward greater wholeness.

Your Manager Parts protect your body-mind-spirit system to keep you feeling in control of what is happening to you, especially when you feel hurt or rejected. As a result, you might find yourself managing your behaviors through the lenses of caregiving, striving, attempting to control, or becoming critical of yourself. This can happen through perfectionism, micromanaging, judgment, or pessimism.

Your Firefighter Parts protect your system by soothing your exiles or unconscious behaviors, thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs. This can often be expressed through addictions such as work, diet, exercise, computer, drugs, shopping, and sleep, to name a few. Responses might also be expressed as eating disorders, self-harm, violence, and in extreme cases, obsession, fantasy, rage, compulsive behaviors, or dissociation.

Your Exile Parts hold emotions locked away due to painful experiences. They are kept isolated from your conscious Self to protect your entire system. They are protected by management of emotions and compensation through actions to self-soothe.

At the same time, your exile parts live in pain or trauma body without access to the Adult or Higher Self parts.

This means that unresolved grief, shame, fear, pain, codependency, or feeling lonely is pushed down. These exiles carry beliefs that often originate in early life or your teenage years, and can become burdens that limit your choices in your life as an adult. The exiles can also carry burdens of the origins of pain from trans-generational patterns representing emotions, behaviors, or patterns passed on by parents or ancestors. This means that while you want to live your own destiny, you carry the responsibility and patterns of your family system.

The processes of Resonance Repatterning, Family Systems, and Internal Family Systems identify the roots of these burdens, so it is possible to give back responsibility and place to the person or group where the pattern originated. By doing so, you are giving a voice to the internal exile and unburdening its impact on your body-mind-spirit system with respect for your system. This creates the opportunity to then move forward with your own life, creating your own destiny with your Functional Adult part.

When The Self acknowledges the needs of your managers, firefighters, and exiled parts, the mobilized energy can open to new possibilities for positive change. The pain or trauma body does not know anything other than the energy constriction. When the Functional Adult Self Part gives the Child Parts the opportunity to reclaim creative life energy, this creates conscious self-regulation and co-regulation.

 Mothering and fathering  yourself as an adult allows coherent patterns you choose in response to what is happening in your life through updating the communication between all of your parts. Instead of reacting to automatic unresolved negative triggers from the past, you can face life in a new way. There can be choice and resilience in your responses to life, connected to a greater sense of calm, clarity, and courage, curiosity that builds resilience in your relationships with life.