Jul 19, 2020

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Finding Neutral to Create Positive Change in Your Life

Finding neutral to create positive change in your life is a way to build greater harmony and balance in your body-mind system. When you feel overwhelmed, stressed, or depleted, finding neutral benefits your ability to slow down so you can become aware and choose what you would like to experience within. By doing so, you become more conscious of sensory input, and to focus on what is important to you.

Thoughts create emotions. Emotions create responses. The connection between your thoughts and emotions are tempered by internal beliefs and memories that contribute to your experience of life. In any experience, you can go through a range of feelings that allow you to process or resolve what is happening. Emotional states are different in that they can be the direction or undercurrent of what your feelings are responding to over time. It is important to know that you are not your feelings. They are not tattoos. They are expressions of what you are experiencing in the now like waves on the ocean that ebb and flow.

“You are the sky. Everything else-it’s just the weather.”~Pema Chodron

Emotional states are guideposts. They create opportunities for insight. Your response or reaction to any situation is influenced by your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. They are not bad or good, however, they can offer you a map to discover what is underneath self-limiting patterns as well as what creates empowering experiences. Finding neutral allows you to choose how you respond to life comes from your ability to work with emotions by noticing their sense of heaviness or lightness, length of time, depth, repetitive thought patterns, self-talk, or feelings.

Finding Neutral to Create Choice

Like going into an automatic car wash, you go in with the intention to clean or wash your car. When you pull into the space, you are asked to place your car in neutral. The purpose of neutral is to separate the action of the engine from the wheels so that you are not idling, moving forward or backward without choice. At the same time you are not in park or stuck.

.For the purpose of working with this metaphor, imagine your time inside a car wash. What is your experience while you wait? Can you find neutral in this experience? Begin by bringing your attention to your breathing. What are you experiencing in this moment? What are you feeling inside? Where are you feeling these sensations?

Now bring your focus to what is happening around you. Notice what you see as the water and brushes sweep over the sides of your car. Are you able to then shift your focus to just noticing the sounds of the water on the car? Now return to focusing on your breath. Get in touch with what feels different even if slightly. Finding neutral can expand your awareness and also press reset on where and what you want to focus on next with your experience.

Dis-empowering or empowering beliefs create different perspectives of life. As an example, staying with the car analogy, let’s say two people are on a road trip. One person looks out the window and sees bad drivers, negative bumper stickers and roadkill while the other person sees a hawk in the sky, notices cloud formations and a rainbow. What’s different? It’s the same road, however, it is a different view. You can imagine that the first person’s body stance and visual field is tense with shallow breathing while the second person might be breathing more fully with eyes wide to take in the beauty of the scenery. There might even be a smile on the second person’s face while there could be a grimace on the first. This illustrates how seemingly the same road trip can be completely different stimulated by particular thoughts and emotions. These, then, trigger physical responses.

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”~Viktor E. Frankl

Read more about Viktor Frankl’s thoughts on this topic related to Resonance Repatterning here.

Finding Neutral by Working with Your Reticular Activating System

What if you could use finding neutral to choose your attitude and your own way? The Reticular Activating System (RAS) is scattered throughout your brain stem in the Reptilian or Survival Brain. It functions as the gatekeeper of sensory information allowed into your consciousness through selecting what is most important. This influences what you are awake, alert to and aware of in your environment.

The RAS manages the transition between levels of consciousness and controls what is prioritized with a focus on what is important through the lens of your present reality.

The Reticular Activating System influences your fight or flight response, sleep and wake transitions, motor control, the experience of pain, muscle reflexes, focus, attention, goal-setting, and habituation. The nerve fibers of the RAS region make connections between your body and mind. For the RAS to be triggered, signal activity needs to occur in your sensory pathways, that are connected with it. Your thoughts, emotions, and chemical responses are continuously working with learned behaviors, habits, and conditioning to contribute to your interpretation of sensory input.

It turns out that your Reticular Activating System does not know the difference between what is actual, what is created by triggers from the past or new triggers you create for it. The experience of imagining being inside a car wash is a great example. Neurotransmitters and neuro-associations, the links between sensory input, your thoughts, and emotions create your experience. The fact is that you can find neutral to create new neural pathways to allow a shift in energy levels, neuro-chemicals, and brain states. This happens by using your inner software to create positive change.

Finding Neutral with What is Important to You

Like the RAS, you can consciously choose to ask yourself, “What is important to me?” “What is important to me to create a life of meaning?” “What feels like it no longer needs to have a place in my life?” “What is no longer serving my Highest Good?” “What is limiting me?” and “What lessons have I learned that are important to my life today? And tomorrow?” Consider these questions with compassion for yourself. Expanding your awareness with the narrative of your beliefs, attitudes, and thoughts will begin to shift the story your body-mind system is responding to in the present and begin the process of creating new pathways each time.

Finding Neutral in Your Body-Mind System

Your life story has evolved through different stages over time. Some of the chapters might seem more pleasant than others. However, in each chapter, there are memories that can bring happiness, sadness, hurt, grief, or wonder. Take what is most important from these pages of your life.

Some of these memories intertwine sadness with joy. That’s okay. You need these emotions to know the depth of love, caring, and needs while strengthening your values and connection to your True Self. Reframing your past experiences unlocks freedom and understanding. Take what will serve you in your life today, and create new pages with the gifts of these lessons.

Changing your triggers or cues that cause you to spiral down into negative emotions or thoughts creates proactive benefits to build new patterns. After you take inventory of your goals and positive intentions for what is important in your life, you can also look at what keeps you from moving forward with them. Many times triggers and cues from the past can keep you stuck. There might be environmental, social, or beliefs about your roles in life that contribute to guilt or shame imprinted into your belief system. Examining your roles, your beliefs, and self-limiting responses to life build awareness about what you need to move forward.

As an example, let’s consider music that you are playing on a road trip. Let’s say you are listening to music, and you hear a song that brings you back into an earlier time in your life where you felt sad because it reminds you of a person or relationship. This is a trigger. It can space you out, change your mood, and even make you cry. Negative triggers like sound, environment, smell, or seeing something associated with a painful memory can change how you feel. These triggers are different for everyone. Pain can keep you stuck in places unable to start or move forward with the next steps. So creating life-energizing cues can build a path toward more optimal positive and sustainable change.

This allows you to choose where you focus and place your attention when you feel overwhelmed or depleted. Knowing that you can count on positive action like getting in touch with your breath, work with an empowering memory, change your body stance to change internal states is beneficial to your body-mind system.

Getting to know what works best for you to shift your focus naturally builds the pathways to positive change. Talking with someone to listen to you on the phone, eating whole foods that nourish your neurotransmitters, taking a walk in nature in the woods or the beach, dancing, or listen to music that calms or inspires you are all examples of ways to shift your focus to life-empowering emotional states, thoughts, and actions to allow you to experience more life-energizing states.

Windows to the Heart Repatterning works with holistic processes designed to re-pattern your life with Resonance Repatterning and Repattern Your Life Coaching. These processes work with natural modalities designed specifically for your body-mind system to create life-enhancing patterns that build integrity in your wellness and well-being!

Kimberly Rex, MS is a certified Advanced Resonance Repatterning and Master Life Coach. She is also a Person-Centered Expressive Therapist. She works with clients all over the world by phone, Skype, and proxy.

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Jun 6, 2020

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Coming to Your Senses for Your Wellness and Well-being

Coming to your senses when you have been feeling frustrated, angry, afraid, or anxious is beneficial to your wellness and well-being. It’s important to know that you can neutralize and shift your body-mind response by working with your 5 senses. By doing so you create short and long-term changes in choosing what you want to experience in your life.

Coming to Your Senses with Sight, Hearing, Touch, Taste, and Smell

Your 5 senses allow you to experience the world in different ways. Working with the 5 Element and Meridian System allows you to work with each of your senses. Each of the 5 Elements includes one of these primary senses and includes primary emotions, color, sound, smell, taste, and touch.

As an example, let’s consider Wood Element which is prevalent at this time of year. It is at this time when everything is growing, and also a time of year related to “Spring Fever” or acting without thinking. When this element is out of balance, it is important to work with stabilizing the energy that is presenting itself. The primary color of Wood Element is green, the emotion is anger, the sound is shouting, and is expressed through movement of the ligaments. The smell is rancid and the taste is sour.

Your response to life starts with your thoughts which create emotions. It is important to register the connection between the information your body is giving you to be able to restore greater harmony and balance.

For example, sight or vision is primarily related to the Wood Element and your Gall Bladder and Liver. What is important to note about the relationship between your vision, anger and the organs related to Wood Element is that you can work with all of your 5 senses to bring about greater harmony and balance.

For more on vision: https://www.windowstotheheart.net/what-impacts-your-vision-of-life-four-ways-to-positive-change/

Everything is frequency. Your body-mind system responds to color, sound, movement, aroma, touch and taste. This means that input into your body through your senses can either nourish or deplete your life energy.

Using the example of Wood Element, your Liver and Gall Bladder and anger, accessing your senses to create greater wellness and well-being would look like the following:

  • 1. Sight: When you are angry, your eye muscles tense up and the ability of your eyes to take in light is diminished. This means that your body-mind system limits the intake of energy for breathing, movement, cellular function, blood flow, adrenaline spikes, executive function, and memory. Over time, anger can overwhelm your system with anxiety and lead to depression.
  • 2. Hearing: Anxiety and depression are fueled by fear. In Chinese Medicine, Water Element related to your kidneys and bladder, fear and hearing, feeds Wood Element or anger. It is not unusual when you feel afraid or angry to experience an inability to listen to what is going on around you. Coming to your senses by listening to calming music or getting in touch with your breath.

Take a Mindful Walk in nature. The colors at this time of year paint a palette of nourishment and calm. The greening of plants, the colors of flowers, birds, and pollinators are all reminders of life on purpose. You are working with your tendons and muscles related to Wood Element while taking in the support of the Earth as you walk.

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Jun 3, 2020

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Living on Purpose Personal Repatterning Session

The Living on Purpose Repatterning will allow you to resonate with your inner strengths and attributes in this time of change. It is an opportunity to identify and work with your innate talents and gifts to navigate the shifts and unexpected turns in the road ahead. In doing so, you can experience greater ease and flow as you press the refresh button for new possibilities.

Now is the time to know that everything you do is sacred.~Hafiz

The Living on Purpose Personal Repatterning will work with creating new energy for meaningful and sustainable positive awareness, energy, and outcomes for your personal, business, and relationship goals as you move forward.

In this 60-minute Living On Purpose Repatterning will allow you to:

  • Bring awareness to your life purpose as you move forward
  • Activate your talents and strengths so you can move beyond internal limits that keep you from considering new opportunities
  • Energize your life going forward with love, joy, and confidence while creating momentum for new possibilities

When you stay on purpose and refuse to be discouraged by fear, you align with the infinite self, in which all possibilities exist.
~Wayne Dyer

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This Resonance Repatterning© session will energize your resonance with living on purpose. This will allow you to move beyond the limits of negative beliefs and self-doubt to create new neural pathways to align with being present to life in beneficial and creative ways.

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Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world by phone, Skype, in-person, and proxy to create greater integrity in your wellness and well-being!

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May 19, 2020

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Building Mindfulness Personal Repatterning Session

Building Mindfulness is a way to bring attention and compassion to your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions. Stressful times like these create the need to learn how to activate peace and calm within.

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.~Khalil Gibran

This 60-minute personal Resonance Repatterning session will focus on working with your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual response to life. The session will include a repatterning process, meditation, and personal growth activities for you to take into your life to build new patterns for mindfulness and well-being matched to your needs.

This process will build new neural pathways that will allow you to experience a point of choice with your thoughts, beliefs, feeling responses, and actions. This means that you can move from self-limiting to self-caring choices more consistently through working with resonating with building a Point of Choice, Patience, Pacing, and Perseverance. What better time to bring these qualities into your life!

Benefits of Building Mindfulness

Research shows that mindfulness and meditation practices have a positive effect on your wellness and well-being. Wellness benefits include stress reduction, an increase in working memory, a decrease in depression, post-traumatic stress, and hypertension, and other cardiovascular diseases. Mindfulness research also shows positive results in affecting inflammation, immune system functioning, and cellular aging. Well-being benefits include greater awareness, ability to self-regulate, ability to improve your outlook on life, resilience, and choice in where you focus your attention and energy in how you respond to life.

The benefits of this Building Mindfulness Repatterning will allow you to:

  • Resonate with spiraling up with a Point of Choice when you experience self-limiting thoughts or emotions so you can choose how you respond in the present moment from a place of love, self-compassion, and discernment.
  • Create long-term mindfulness practices that allow patience to give you ways to transform self-limiting thoughts, emotions, or sensations so you can be more present to your life right now.
  • Give yourself permission to pace yourself through your day while bringing loving-kindness to your experience so you can let go of what does not serve you.
  • Free yourself from your inner critic so you can persevere and resonate with your “why” to create motivation and momentum for your positive intentions both for your short-term and long-term goals
  • Use guided meditations and activities to create a weekly plan for actions to build mindfulness habits into your life for good!

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Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world by phone, Skype, in-person and proxy to create greater integrity in your wellness and well-being!

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Apr 30, 2020

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Mindfulness and the PPE’s for Your Well-being

  PPE’s, personal protective equipment, is vital to your personal physical safety and wellness. Mindfulness as a PPE for your well-being is equally important in the process.

 How you experience what is going on in the world is happening inside of you. Emotional overwhelm during this time requires PPE’s for Personal Protective Energy. 

  Managing your inner experience through mindfulness with the qualities of perseverance, persistence, patience, and pacing benefits the quality of your life Energy.

  This happens with intention, awareness, practice, and reflection dedicated to creating greater harmony and balance within.*

Perseverance is defined as an effort to weather difficulties and to not give up. Persistence is defined as continuing a task in spite of difficulty until you finally achieve your goal. In this time, both are necessary in order to reach wellness and well-being for all of us. It will take sustained effort over time for ourselves, health workers, family, friends, community, and the planet.

Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. ~Viktor E. Frankl

PPE’s for Point of Choice

In the midst of difficulties, you can focus on what is negative, or choose to the degree it is possible on what will bring love and care to your body, mind, and spirit. Through mindfulness, you can shift your attention to what you want to experience in your environment. As an example, you can ask yourself, “Does this contribute to creating love or peace of mind, or will this amplify my suffering, anxiety, and fear?The point of choice allows you to choose more calm and stability in your own life, and this also benefits the lives of others.

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PPE’s for Patience, Persistence and Perseverance

Patience is defined as bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, or irritation. Impatience is bargaining with time and limitation.

This time of not knowing what is coming next in isolation or quarantine rouses negative thoughts and beliefs of fear and limitation. These thoughts can feel depleting, frustrating, and unbearable.

You can take on the experience of being put in time out to sit out from your life. Or, you can actually use this time as a calm down and find meaning for your life.

Choosing perseverance and pacing, even stillness changes your ability to experience life more directly and offers the opportunity to create more mindfulness to take in what is life-enhancing to build greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

Several years ago when I was going to a difficult time processing the death of my brother while also being in the middle of a divorce, a dear friend advised me to just stay in the present moment. “If you are peeling a potato, just focus on peeling the potato,” she said. “I’m peeling the potato, I’m peeling the potato.” Doing so, allowed me some peace and allowed a space for calm and clear thinking in the midst of overwhelming feelings, thoughts, and experience.

Focusing on the moment, getting in touch with your breath, and on only what you are doing right now, with the sounds, the light, the color of what you are touching allows you to move from racing thoughts of worry, fear, and anxiety to a greater sense of presence.

The parable in this video speaks to building a foundation for greater calm and peace of mind within. This allows you to be in the present moment with whatever challenge or situation is happening in your life so you can choose your thoughts, emotions, and how to best respond.

PPE’s for Pacing

While pacing can be a movement back and forth from worry, over-thinking, waiting, and exasperation, it can also be a way to build endurance over time by allowing yourself to do and resonate with being and doing enough in a time where the world presents the picture of competition, consumerism and the message of not being or having enough on many fronts.

The point of choice for pacing is slowing down, breaking tasks into manageable parts, focusing your attention on what you are doing right now, asking for help when you need it, taking breaks, and prioritizing what needs to be done. and in what order.

Patience like a flower is dormant for awhile, then blooms to give us reason to weather one more mile.” ~Kimberly Rex

There are few templates for this possibility in the modern world. Living life in the fast lane makes it difficult to stop and get in touch with what is going on inside where a minute is all you have to process any part of your life.

In cleaning out a box recently, I found letters I wrote to dear friends prior to email. The letters were hand-written and filled with sharing from a personal level that today is often not possible in a text or email.

I discovered poems written for friends, loves, family members, and pets processing emotions of joy, grief, love in stages of my life through my emotional body translated to paper that expressed the inner landscape of what was alive in me at the time. Being in touch with what is alive in us today is an essential way to work with mindfulness.

Mindfulness practices that build on observation, self-regulation, and positive self-talk allow you to better manage your thoughts, emotions, and responses, especially in stressful times. This allows you to restore and build from your center to deliberately choose what you would like to experience in your body-mind system.

Taking time to nourish your body. mind and spirit with healthy foods, practices, and communication are vital to truly connect within, to nature, nurture, and life with mindful pacing.

How can you bring these qualities of mindfulness into your life more consistently in these times? How do you get in touch with what is happening within so you can heal and nourish the parts of yourself that feel overwhelmed, frightened, or depressed? How do you acknowledge and work with run-away thoughts and negative self-talk?

PPE’s for Your Life Energy

The quality of your life is vitally important in any time related to your personal health, wellness, and well-being. Your life energy is your vital essence. What you do to strengthen and protect your life energy is essential reflected in the ways you choose life-enhancing or depleting thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, and actions.

What you learn during this time can be transformational in how you live your life from this day forward. What you bring to the table in your life today can create mindfulness PPE’s for well-being that builds integrity in your wellness and well-being now and the rest of your life.

This is your personal invitation to benefit from Mindfulness PPE’s for your well-being in your life so you can apply these skills to the present moment in any situation and into the future.

Build mindfulness into your life to benefit your wellness and well-being here.

Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Personal Life Coach. She works with clients all over the world by phone and Skype with sessions and programs that create greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

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