Jan 13, 2018

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Acceptance is Part of the Transformation Process

 Acceptance is part of the transformation process.  It is as important as setting goals. Many times, this word can be confused with passivity. However, paired with insight and awareness, it is a beneficial tool for positive change.

  1. Would of, Could of, Should of”  This saying speaks to the place in your thinking where your upset about what is happening in your life today is based on the meaning you have given your experience from the past. While you make lists of what your life might have been like had you made different choices, or better yet, others had made different choices, it is an exercise in futility unless you gain insight and meaning from the gentle or difficult nudging to shift your perception of your experience. It is through the channel of acknowledging your regret that allows you to untangle from the past so that you can identify your inner needs in your current experience in front of you more fully.                                                                                                                                                                                        
  2. Acceptance Means Moving into the Present

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. ~Joseph Campbell


Where you are today is a summation of many factors including what you needed to work out or work through in your life experience. Your experience is based on the conscious awareness you bring to it. Much like the cycle of a butterfly, you are only able to manage what your direct sense of what is happening to you and around you based on where you are in your evolutionary process. A caterpillar does not have yet the capacity to fly, however, it has the capacity within it to build a cocoon to house the transformation process. Acceptance does not mean that you sit and wallow. Acceptance is acknowledging the reality of what is going on in your life, so you can look at your current choices, plan and go into action in the present based on what you have learned through right action.

3. Accept Where I am, so I know what I might be.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.~ Lao Tzu

Accepting where you are in life in the moment in any particular area of your life creates freed up constricted energy that was devoted to worry, fear, pain and frustration. When accepting a situation free of resistance, it allows the opening of seeing more in-depth and with greater clarity. It allows your body-mind system to work with greater harmony and balance to create transformation within your self, your relationships while energizing new possibilities that transcend where you have already traveled.

Like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon, it takes time to strengthen its wings after completing its inner process from caterpillar to butterfly. Each butterfly opens and closes its newly found wings stretching within the enclosure until it is able to release itself from its cellular walls. The limits of this enclosure allowed it to become better able to be something more than caterpillar, however, it was through the different stages in the process of transformation that allowed for new possibilities of freedom and movement.

Acceptance is an integral part of the transformation process of Resonance Repatterning©. Sessions benefit your ability to appreciate your inner knowing and resilience no matter what you are facing in life. This process allows you to move beyond your limiting beliefs to experience greater harmony and balance in your body-mind system so that you can strengthen your wing s for greater freedom and life energy to dedicate to your wellness and well-being. To start your transformation process this year, get Looking at Change in the New Year FREE ebook with this link.

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Dec 30, 2017

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Making Change as You Enter the New Year

Butterfly EffectIs there a message for all of us  to consider as we traditionally look at making change as we enter a new year? It’s not just any change. It’s change that moves you from where you are in the present into an expanded view of your life, or in ways to improve your wellness and well-being whether that be health, relationship or business choices.
When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.
~Lao Tzu
  In the process of making any change, there is the need to first learn from where you are standing now.  I remember listening to Jean Houston speaking several years ago about making change at the quantum level. She spoke of the mechanics of a quantum leap where an electron jumps into a new expression of something greater than itself on its own.  However, before this happens, the molecule creates homeostasis. This applies to your life in the same way in the beginning stages of making change as a place of getting in touch with your feelings, thoughts and insights of that have brought you to the need to make change in the present as an essential part of considering positive change.
  Change takes you out of routine, habit and the familiar. At this crossroad, you have a Point of Choice. You can either stay in your current situation, relationship or pattern, or choose to experience something completely new. Leaping into new territory or redefining your life through the filter of needs, resources and benefits is essential for long-lasting benefits. This means making time and space to define where you are headed.
When we feel stuck, going nowhere–even starting to slip backward–we may actually be backing up to get a running start.
~Dan Millman
Based on the book,  Changing for Good by James Prochaska, PhD, there are aspects of the process that can be described as The Five Cycles of Change.  The feeling process that accompanies these cycles are similar to what Elizabeth Kubler-Ross researched in her description of the Grief Process including denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Each aspect is unique to each person in sequence, duration and intensity.
The Five Cycles of Change
1. Pre-contemplation: This is the place where you are likely still in denial, and not yet aware that you want or need to change.
2. Contemplation: At this point, you may be starting to experience uneasiness about your current situation. You may experience a sense of feeling unsettled, angry, upset and resentful that you are where you are in this situation. You may be bargaining in this stage.
3. Preparation: As you work through your feelings, you reach a place of acceptance. This is the place where you look at the pro’s and con’s. This is the Point of Choice.
4. Action: You focus, make a decision and start taking some form of action.
5. Maintenance: You check your action and continue to take steps to actively choose what is life-energizing. You feel confident and thankful for your work, and see the value in your positive change.
6. Recycling: You check and move into an earlier stage to understand, question or update your thinking and planning.
  You have a choice about how you wish to experience your process of change.  Confusion and disorientation may seem like challenging aspects of moving into a new way of being, yet the anticipation of new growth and possibility as you move into a new way of experiencing life can also be exhilarating, joyous and freeing.
When you feel frustrated and overwhelmed with next steps, the idea of connecting to an anchor image of a time when you moved through a challenging situation in your past  that was successful can help you feel grounded and hopeful with your next steps now.
 How did you feel in that situation? Bring these feelings into your current situation. The power of this positive memory will energize your emotional brain. Your emotional brain only knows “now.”  As you motivate your choices with positive emotion, you create the neural pathways and encouragement for the conscious mind to take action in the present.
  Knowing that the cycles of life and change are part of living is wisdom, uou can choose how you experience your life in any moment.  Each breath, each thought, each new day brings new steps, opportunities for growth and new possibilities.

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Dec 30, 2017

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Faith, Hope and Wonder Essential for Change with FREE New Year Ebook

As the new year nears, perhaps you are hoping things will be different from last year. The way you think about this prospect is important in how you experience life this year. Desiring it to happen, hoping it will happen, and living in a sense of wonder and faith about it happening are all important to consider in the process. Faith, hope and wonder are essential in the process of making change.

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1) Desire: We’ve all experienced great desire for something whether that be a relationship, job, new home, car, clothes, etc. These desires can be goals, and they can also be thoughts filled with expectations that convey feelings of stress, anxiety and fear. Desires are really pointing to the deeper roots of your experience at the core or heart of what your life is telling you. And, from this perspective, they can also serve to bring calm, inner peace, as well as curiosity and adventure.

2)Hope: Notice how often you use this terminology on a daily basis. ” I hope it doesn’t rain.” or “I hope he’s going to call.” How does this make you feel? Does it help you feel more at ease or in tension?  It is good to hope that things happen, however, it is also disappointing when it doesn’t over and over again. This thinking can potentially engulf you in the problem instead of a solution, leaving you feeling disappointed if your hope or desired outcome doesn’t manifest the way you expected.

3) Faith and Wonder: Faith and wonder create a more neutral ground for experiencing the guidance, clues and synchronicity present in accessing calm and serenity instead of undue stress or pessimism bound by inner messages that are filled with fear and stress. Living life from the point of faith and wonder offers the opportunity for choice. This frees up more energy to experience life in the moment and not from knee-jerk reactions to feeling out of control. When you change how you go through your day with the perspective of wonder, you are more centered as the observer. This is different from activating the radar from the past coming from a place of fear and expectation. It allows you to more easily let go of the outcome, and to stay centered in greater sense of collaboration with and connection to life as it is.

“Don’t wish for it to happen. Don’t wish for it not to happen. Just watch it happen. Let the wonder of life unfold.” ~Susan Jeffers, PhD

Applying This to Your Life

As an example, try the following two statements: “I hope I get a raise.” and “I wonder if I will get a raise.”  When you hope something is going to happen, the emphasis is truly on the other person, in this case, your boss. When you wonder if you will get a raise you are free to consider your own values in the situation. Whether you receive a raise or not, the inner dialogue is one based on your inner guidance to respond. In this case, you might choose to stay in your current job, get insight about details, timing, or take a leap of faith to get a new job.

  Wondering within  allows you to notice how you feel and to stay in touch with your inner feeling and responses. Noticing how we feel about the situation in regards to your true underlying need for security, nurture, respect and love, the need to do your best, go beyond your limits, or the need for purpose, meaning within are all places to explore that goes to the quantum level of subtle change that matters. Every situation in life is an opportunity for learning: your health, relationship, job, communication, your feelings, grief, loss and pain. Taking the learning starts with getting in touch with the process of observing where you are stuck. Facing your resistance to a situation is different from blaming and criticizing others. Wonder coupled with faith offers the opportunity to look within through the lens and teachings of the habits and patterns in your life today.

Visualize by asking yourself, “What would my life be like if I had a job where my needs for appreciation, respect and nurture were met?” ” I wonder what my life would be like?” ” I wonder if there is a different way to see this or do this?”
Can you feel the shift in these words? They move you from feeling like a victim to a person who is seeking guidance, inner truth and understanding. Visualizing what it would be like starts building the bridge to new possibilities. Like Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. with  I have a dream,envisioning is a strong tool for wonder whose door is kept open through dedication and action over time.

Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

  Taking action is a powerful tool coupled with intent and vision. The emotion of meeting an underlying need with even one small action and unhesitating commitment carries energy for the journey on the staircase. This energy influences and brings a sense of invitation or wonder to your emotional brain. Taking action brings wonder to your results oriented brain. Staying in wonder allows the Fight-or-Flight Brain to move beyond the restricted areas of the patterns of the past by resolving the blocked energy from the past. Know that as you take action, your intent and motivation will also bring up what needs to be transformed as a way to
keep harmony and balance in your process. Keeping a sense of wonder and faith throughout the process creates more beneficial and positive change that matters over time.

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Dec 8, 2017

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Are You a Bulb That Carries Light or Light of Which the Bulb is a Vehicle?

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What am I? Am I the bulb that carries the light, or am I the light of which the bulb is a vehicle?  ~Joseph Campbell

Your life, insights, and relationships are energy in motion. Everything down to the cellular level pulses or vibrates. The quality of these vibrations create form and function. Even DNA in its spiraling, geometric pattern of proportions controls your “form.”

There is order in life to not only give form but to transform energy. This order maintains life whether it be the life of a plant, your body, relationship or business. Source energy of sound and light provides the driving and sustaining power for all existence. The light that creates, enhances and maintains life is specific.

…the light not only from our sun but also from billions upon billions of similar stars is at exactly the right frequency for life as we know it to exist. If it was of a higher frequency- as in x rays and gamma rays-living systems would be blown apart. If it was of a lower frequency, as in radio waves, its energy would be insufficient to be absorbed and utilized.   ~John Davidson  from his book, Subtle Energy.  Subtle Energy book link

This insight can also be applied to personal and business relationships. If the frequency is too high it can show up in lack of order, organization, or grounding. This creates conflict, anxiety, stress, frustration, distrust, or anger. When there is insufficient energy for the relationship or business, this shows up as lack of motivation, feelings of powerlessness, exhaustion, fear or withdrawal.

Feeding the energy circuit not only includes form and function, but wave and particle. This creates the magnetic field of attraction. You are all things, current, flow, magnetic field, positive, negative, Yin, Yang, sound and light. Every issue you have has a particular frequency.  This means that your arguments, back ache or business difficulties.as well as your joy, feelings of empowerment and grounding have particulat frequencies. Your energy holds huge potential. The good news is that this potential creates new possibilities that starts within you!

   To affect positive change, start by working with the filter through which you experience life mentally and emotionally. Clearing the filter where information has been disrupted or stopped helps to enliven and harmonize your Chi energy. This can be done through cleansing your body-mind system of toxic thoughts, substances and feelings, nourishing your body with movement, breath, light, color and relaxation, whole foods and spiritual practice. Couple this with life-enhancing actions based on love to keep you connected to the primal energy of your core essence.

When  you address  inner issues of pain, you enhance the capacity to connect more deeply to your inner brilliance. This impacts both the form and function of your life. Healing through the process of loving every aspect of yourself: positive, negative, light, dark, anger, fear, misconceptions and non-truths, you enhance your life energy. As you acknowledge and integrate the higher purpose and lessons from these places in your life that have brought you where you to where you are, it becomes much more possible to love, value and appreciate the positive inside of you. This, in turn, creates more life energy to strengthen, magnetize and manifest your positive intentions.

Kimberly Rex, MS is a certified Resonance Repatterning, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, Wellness and Well-being Life Coach who works with people by phone, Skype, proxy and in-person.

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Dec 7, 2017

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Do You Hear, See and Know? (The Impact on Your Wellness and Well-being)

In writing this article, I was struck by the reminder of the lyrics in the song written by Gloria Shayne Baker and Noël Regney*, “Do You Hear What I Hear?”  While the topic is different, the three questions in the song apply to your wellness and well-being based on the perspective of Chinese Traditional Medicine (TCM).

Let me explain.  What you hear, see and consciously know impacts the integrity of your wellness and well-being.

Do You Hear What I Hear?

From the Kidney’s Perspective

Kidney relates directly to the reptilian brain function. This means that survival, fear, and overwhelm in your current life gets translated into how the energy in your body-mind system is communicated throughout your body. Kidney stores short term memory. The impact of the relationship to the reptilian brain can make it difficult to discern what is a current danger or a residual thought, belief, or attitude about a stressful event or situation from the past. The reptilian brain’s job is to search for anything that reminds it of previous danger, and then to take action through fight-flight or freeze.

In practical terms on a day-to-day basis this affects how your Nervous System responds to perceived danger and threats. It impacts your Adrenalin response, blood pressure, hormones, cortisol and sleep cycles. This impacts your ability to retain information accurately in the present. It affects the amount and quality of life energy or vitality your have, your ability to remember important information, and your ability to hear things clearly.

More on Health Implications between Kidney, Adrenal, Excretory and Circulation Impacts

Do You See What I See?

From the Liver’s Perspective

In Chinese Medicine, the liver stores emotion. The liver is related to the Limbic or Emotional Brain. When liver is distorted by anger and frustration is repressed over time, it impacts the way you perceive the world through your thinking and seeing. The ability to modulate your emotional responses to your external environment has an affect on your internal response to challenges.

Liver filters blood and this in turn affects your chi or energy level. When liver is out of balance, it limits your  vision and your ability to see from the perspective on another person. It keeps you from considering that there might be another alternative or possibility. Your decision-making process becomes clouded, and your body-mind system’s ability to prioritize thought and action becomes less clear.

More on Liver’s Impact on Health and Well-being

Do You Know What I Know?

Open Heart, Full Heart, Strong Heart, and Clear Heart

From the Heart’s Perspective

The heart is the home of the Shen Spirit related to the capacity for compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, tolerance, joy and love. It is primarily related to your reasoning and decision-making Cortex. There are 5 functional responsibilities for the heart including consciousness, thinking, imagination and planning, the ability to modulate emotions and long term memory according to TCM. Because of these functions, it is important to engage all three places: the kidney, the liver and the heart in order to heal internal conflict and dissonance related to your mental, emotional, physical and spirit.


4 Stages of Disease Leading to Chronic Illness 

TCM looks at the pathway of disease from the perspective of the relationship between organ and meridian systems. Heart is the emperor of the body-mind system, however, in order to begin the healing process, heart must connect with Kidney. When there is disorder of stagnation in the kidney your liver is affected. When your liver is negatively affected this impacts your  heart.  This starts with distortions in how you think related to what you believe and see in life. This, then, can lead to both emotional and physical imbalance.

When there have been long-standing issues with unresolved emotions and perception of victimization or overwhelm over time, dis-ease becomes more likely a possibility. This happens through 1) Shen Stagnation 2) Chi Stagnation 3) Blood Stagnation and resulting 4) Body Stagnation.

This is an invitation to work with creating greater harmony and balance in your life. As we move into Winter, Water Element related to Kidney and Bladder are the prominent organs that express information for special need and care. There is much to be acknowledged on the health benefits in starting with the kidneys to inform and play a healing role in transforming the rest of the body-mind system through focusing on nourishing the transformation of your Reptilian Brain’s reaction to trauma from the past, and to balance your need for giving and receiving in a loving way within your body, your mind, your relationships and in the world.

Build integrity in your wellness and well-being for the winter months by taking part in a personal Winter Wellness Resonance Repatterning session that works with this purpose to create greater harmony and balance for your kidneys and bladder’s impact on your ability to build life energy to heal the past so you can be more energized and able to go with the flow of life, set boundaries, increase resilience through the winter months.

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*Do You Hear What I Hear?” is a song that was written in October 1962, with lyrics by Noël Regney and music by Gloria Shayne Baker. The pair, married at the time, wrote it as a plea for peace during the Cuban Missile Crisis … Composer(s): Gloria Shayne Baker Written: 1962 Lyricist(s): Noël Regney More on origin of “Do You Hear What I Hear?”

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Nov 21, 2017

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Thanksgiving: Look at Your Life through Gratitude

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Thanksgiving is an invitation to take time to look at your life through the lens of gratitude.

Gratitude is more than saying “Thank you,” for what is in front of you in the moment. It is a way of seeing your life through the lens of shifting your awareness to what is being supportive as something is presented to you in your life. It’s important to take time to change your attitude to gratitude. Whether the situation is challenging, momentary, or on-going, the way you see what is happening, or take it in, directly affects how your body-mind field uses this information.

Your body-mind system takes in information rapidly, and sifts through what you are experiencing based on memory imprints and habits over time. The way your body-mind responds to incoming data changes your breath, posture, and how energy is communicated to all of your system through your thoughts, feelings and actions.

Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving. – W.T. Purkiser

The way you see the world is directly related to the quality of light you absorb with the quality of communication throughout your body-mind system. The neurochemistry of stress when processed through the filters of shame, anger, fear, or the residue of habitual messages learned earlier in life can take immense energy away from the opportunity of seeing the world in the present with potential for receiving new insight, or creating new neural pathways in your brain, your heart, and the rest of your body.

This, in turn, affects how you see the world, move through the world, and your health.

The work of the Institute of Heart Math in San Diego, California, has done volumes of research on the impact of thoughts and feelings of appreciation, gratitude, joy, and love on the entire body-mind system. The impact of shifting awareness from stress, fear, anger, and worry to an anchor image or thought of gratitude creates  greater functioning of the problem-solving brain, the immune system, and all the systems of the body for several hours.

Especially in world where there is ever-increasing demands and change, using a simple and elegant technology of shifting your awareness to appreciation and gratitude to be able to navigate next steps,is cause enough to feel relief and gratitude.

In David Steindl-Rast‘s TED Talk, he speaks of an effective way to call our thinking focus back to this purpose with “Stop. Look. Go,” a skill learned early in life when crossing any street or road for safety and well-being. Today you can use this to activate the life-enhancing impact of gratitude to create a greater sense of happiness, health and well-being.

Using this skill in a situation that demands stamina, a deep breath, or a letting go today can intervene to call you back into a life-energizing response to whatever life is handing you in the moment. Using this with what is directly in front of you, or calling on a memory of gratitude, appreciation, joy or love is as powerful. Making this a habit can be one of the most effective, long-term beneficial wellness and well-being practices you ever use for happiness.

Stop: Set up stop signs, notes, meditation or time-out’s within your life daily for a practice of noticing small things that support you. Bring more of what is life-enhancing into your life through healthy food, sound, light, movement, breath, fragrance and loving touch. Making space and time for yourself serves as an oasis for grounding and renewing. This provides the opportunity to recharge so that you can be more in the flow of life, connected to the source of what feeds your need for joy, love, and freedom. You, then, have more energy to take next steps for challenges, adventures, and growth. You also have more to offer to all your relationships.

Look: Expand your awareness of what is good about your life, your loved-ones, what they have taught you, what you have learned, and what is good about you. Take in color from nature, the fresh air, the soft sounds of water, the necessities that are taken care of in your life: electricity, running water, transportation, heat, food, etc. Take in the smiles you receive, the compliments, the web of life that supports you being here: from small to large. Get in touch with where in your life you would like to adjust or make change. Look with the eye of discernment.

Go: Allow this information to motivate your life, and to activate new possibilities. Smile back at life. Share your vision, ideas, thoughts, and feelings in ways that support positive growth and transformation. Translate this into meaning in your relationship with others. In this way the circle of gratitude creates greater happiness, and expands into the circle of life to create new possibilities for all.

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