Dec 4, 2018

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The Peace that Begins Within

Family Systems is one of the many healing disciplines integrated into Resonance Repatterning®. The purpose of this work is to identify where in your body-mind-spirit system you are living with the past loyalties to your groups and systems that conflict with your individuality and author-ship of your life. The peace that begins within starts with working with Self, and how it affects your relationships and view of the world.


Events in your life, your family’s history, and stressful experiences impact your wellness, well-being, and how you see and experience the world. When you experience conflict within, it is often related to how you experience parts of yourself that carry limiting beliefs, attitudes or concept of time with what you would like to create. About 90% of this material is unconscious based on protection, safety and need for homeostasis. The peace that begins within starts with making this information available to your conscious Self.

New Possibilities: Getting in touch with your thoughts, feelings, and body sensations when you are in a challenging situation is an invitation to witness how you are experiencing life in any given moment. By doing so, you create a bridge to allowing your inner world to inform you in a way that builds connection to the present. It is possible then to shift your awareness to your internal messages and needs that are speaking in response to what is happening in your life.


“Let’s shine the light of consciousness on places where we can hope to find what we are seeking.” Marshall B. Rosenberg

In Family Systems, a group is a system that is bonded by certain beliefs and rules. This could be your family, members of a club or organization, culture, religion, or even a company. These groups have their own beliefs and rules. Some emotions in specific groups can be “good” and allowed, or “bad” and not allowed. Beliefs that allowed in one group, may be taboo or “bad” in another group.

This is where loyalties to belief systems create interference patterns to expanding your capacity to be in some groups while you feel more “at home” in other groups. You take your belief systems from with you wherever you go as you interact with groups with different belief systems everywhere you go.

These patterns of limitation are often unconscious, and the only way to transform these emotions, thoughts and beliefs is to make them conscious. By doing so, you expand the capacity of your awareness to experience greater choice beyond the rules set within your family system historically at a very deep level.

New Possibilities: Exploring these unconscious limiting patterns can create the opportunity to expand your view while staying curious to your individual needs. While you have been influenced by the infrastructure of your ancestry, you also have the capacity to expand your awareness to experience greater freedom and choice. Once you integrate and update your way of seeing the world, you are then better able to see and experience others from a broader lens of awareness.

For example, let’s say that in your family of origin the emotion of “joy” is not allowed. Perhaps there is a resonance with a sense of grief, working hard or sense of being victimized that originates from an ancestor or systemic root. Moving beyond systemic limiting rules can create a sense of guilt.

However, by expanding your capacity to show respect and loyalty to your system in a way that allows love as you see each family member as a part of your system, you then expand the ability of your system’s rules to explore this new possibility of joy.

When the family has been brought into its natural order, the individual can leave it behind him while still feeling the strength of his family supporting him. Only when the connection to his family is acknowledged, and the person’s responsibility seen clearly and then distributed, can the individual feel unburdened and go about his personal affairs without anything from the past weighing him down or holding him back.~Bert Hellinger


When you have the awareness to choose to expand your limits from a particular group, or explore beyond the circle of your group, you take your beliefs with you. Every person thinks differently and perceives the world in their own way. Everyone is born into a specific group related to family, culture, language, habits and everything connected to them. If the habits and values of another group opposes your beliefs, this can create conflict.

New Possibilities: When you are also able to see others imagining their parents with their beliefs, culture, language and specific religion, you are better able to understand what makes them the way they are. Each person has their own dislikes or likes, and has different needs. There are no “good” or “bad” people, only different ways of seeing the world. Being able to see each person as an individual is a way to open the circle for each person. Once we open the circle within ourselves, we can then connect with others with this foundation.


You can only be at peace within when you are reconciled with what you are. This allows you to open up to life to receive everything life offers you. You can take that vital life energy that comes from your parents and ancestors. This creates the opportunity to learn from this material. It allows life energy to flow to you. When accessed with sense of humility so that you can learn from it instead of pushing it away, this information creates an opportunity for you to expand and grow.

You could not be here without your parents and ancestors. Once you take this information, then you are able to use this to transform your life. This allows you to face life and do something good with that information. Instead of repeating the patterns of limiting beliefs, thoughts and attitudes out of loyalty to your system, you are better able to give respect and honor to your ancestors in a way that also makes that possible for your Self. That means greater choice and new possibilities.

I’d like to invite you to explore how Resonance Repatterning and Family Systems benefits your life.  Experience a session by phone, Skype or in-person  with Windows to the Heart Repatterning.  Set up a session time here: Contact Page

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Dec 3, 2018

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Winter Remedies for Your Body, Mind and Spirit

As we enter the colder months, it’s important to acknowledge that your body-mind-spirit system has particular needs that differ from other parts of the year. These winter remedies work with all three levels.

*SPECIAL OFFER: When you purchase all (3) of these Winter Remedies you will receive a complimentary Everything’s Coming Up Roses Lip Balm! (See LINK at the end of this page)

1) Body: In the transition from warmer to cooler temperatures, germs and bacteria from common colds and flu are more likely. You probably already take care of yourself by dressing for the cold, covering your throat with a scarf, eating foods that are nourishing and warming. However, there’s also a natural way to benefit your wellness with essential oils that have been used for generations to protect you from the effects of taking on the germs and bacteria when you are shopping, at work, school or gatherings this winter.

Be Well Essential Oil  Essential Oil Blend and Balm:  These essential oils are antimicrobial, antibacterial, antiseptic and anti-fungal.  Together, they create a wonderful blend with a scent much like chai tea that enhances your wellness through the winter.

Be Well Blends and Salve

2) Mind: At the same time, you have the opportunity to enrich your inner life while life continues to present both opportunity and challenge. What you think and how your respond make all the difference.

Winter Blues Spray Away: This essential oil blend infused in organic Pacific Northwest lavender hydrosol is both calming and uplifting. This makes this natural spray beneficial for realigning your thoughts and energy flow when you feel stuck, anxious or overwhelmed.

Winter Blues Spray Away

3) Spirit: Part of winter’s gift is to create space for expanding your awareness of your inner resources. When you resonate with your ability to go with the flow while conserving your energy reserves when dealing with day-to-day stresses, you experience resilience. This means that you resonate with balance and harmonizing giving and receiving with nurture and support on the psycho-spiritual level.

Winter Resilience Essence Blend: This flower and plant essence is a blend of three plants that offer support for transition, balancing your need for self-care with nurturing others while integrating light in the winter to experience a greater sense of well-being.

Winter Resilience Essence Blend


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This skin~nourishing lip balm has organic rose petals, rose geranium , rosehip and lavender infused in grape seed oil. This botanical combination calms,  heals and moisturizes your skin. Great for chapped lips, dry skin, skin discoloration, and softening your skin.

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Kimberly Rex, MS is a certified Resonance Repatterning, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist and Wellness &Well-being Life Coach. She also is certified and certificated with Soluna Spagyric Homeopathic Remedies, homeopathy, herbalism, flower essences and aromatherapy.

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Dec 3, 2018

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Winter Blues Spray Away

Winter Blues Spray Away is a natural way to uplift your energy.

This essential oil blend infused in organic Pacific Northwest lavender hydrosol is both calming and uplifting. This makes this natural spray beneficial for realigning your thoughts and energy flow when you feel stuck, anxious or overwhelmed.

With the energizing essential oils of sweet orange, nutmeg, roman chamomile and petigrain, you’ll experience a positive energy shift.  The combined qualities of these essential oils are relaxing and mood lifting. This spray can be a natural way to your sense of winter blues, frustration, hypertension or anxiety. The organic Pacific Northwest lavender hydrosol brings all of these essential oils together to create harmony and balance.

Directions: Spray this in the air to experience its calming while energizing effects. Spray on a tissue or cotton ball, and carry it with you. When you need stress-relief, inhale the aroma. Place the spray on cloth or cotton ball to place on pillow case as you prepare for sleep. Spray in your environment for stress-relief.

Testimonial:  “I used this wonderful smelling blend while I was studying for a test in college. When I felt stuck, nervous or overwhelmed, I sprayed it in the air and stepped into the fragrance. It was like a switch from dark to light.  I sprayed in on my pillow to get to sleep so I wouldn’t stare at the ceiling worrying about the tests. I felt more motivated, focused and calm at the same time! It really helped me get through the study and test process!

Thank you!  ~KL, New York

Winter Blues Spray Away

Kimberly Rex, MS is a certified Resonance Repatterning, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist and Wellness &Well-being Life Coach. She also is certified and certificated with Soluna Spagyric Homeopathic Remedies, homeopathy, herbalism, flower essences and aromatherapy.

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Dec 2, 2018

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Holiday Lights: An Invitation to Let Your Light Shine

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Oct 20, 2018

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Letting Go When Things Fall Apart

Fall is a time where letting go is visible. The trees lose their leaves. The garden shuts down, the temperatures recede as we move into fall.  it looks like that’s all there is. However, we know that spring will come again. In fact, the trees are forming their buds now as they let go of their leaves. In life, when we cannot see beyond our beliefs, attitudes or story we are telling ourselves, it becomes difficult to stay in the process while it is unfolding.

The book, When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron, an American Buddhist nun and teacher, is well worth reading in this time of letting go. In fact, it is in this time where it seems like things are falling apart, that the natural cycles of letting go can create new possibilities so that you can reclaim greater well-being and peace when we let go of the story embedded with non-coherent, attitudes, beliefs and concept of time.

This article summarizes some of the tenets presented in the book with three stories that illustrate and give meaning to them. 

What meaning do these stories have for you?


Fear can be a driving force that moves us away from ourselves and others, or a doorway that allows us to look at life on the path as a spiritual warrior. One of the questions Pema Chodron’s teacher, Rinpoche asked in a meditation class was, “What do you do when you are squeezed?” When I read this, I reflected on the many times I have moved into a state of fear or immobility. This automatic response led me away from taking care of what was happening to me in the moment. With new awareness, however, being squeezed can serve as a doorway to become aware of an alternative way of being and response. What would happen if fear could lead me to a greater opening and expansiveness?  Your attitude about the situation is what changes how you experience, feel and respond to it.

When a rainbow appears vividly in the sky, you can see its beautiful colors, yet you could not wear as clothing or put it on as an ornament. It arises through the conjunction of various factors, but there is nothing about it that can be grasped. Likewise, thoughts that arise in the mind have no tangible existence or intrinsic solidity. There is no logical reason why thoughts, which have no substance, should have so much power over you, nor is there any reason why you should become their slave. ~Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche

Story #1: Is It Good or Is It Bad?

The option to relax and focus on  your breathing allows you to get in touch with your inner world. Your ‘thinking” is reacting to the situation.  By being more in touch with your breath, this can stabilize and support you in the moment relieving  your stress response, moving you into the place where your body-mind wisdom can support you.  While doing so, you can start the process of having compassion for your thoughts so that they find new possibilities with inner care to transform or change who you are in the moment, and what you do in response.

Concept of Time

Story #2: Nightmares

We live in a world of polarities. The invitation is to find neutral ground within this mixture. As human beings we experience the world through the lens of positive and negative instead of resting in center to allow the digestion and transformation of what we are experiencing in any given moment. Because we live in a “fix it” world, it is challenging to allow all of our emotions to be there without labeling, grabbing or something to change or numb them.

From the Buddhist perspective, this is demonstrated within the 8 Dharmas. There are 4 dharmas that represent “what we want or desire” and 4 dharmas that represent their opposites, what we do not want to have or experience.
These include: Pleasure or Pain; Praise or Criticism and Blame; Fame or Disgrace; Gain or Lose.

  The question is do you resonate with the problem or the new possibility?  Do you resonate with the process as  one that creates growth within whatever  your life presents to you? Attachment to desire can create pain when  there is a grabbing or clinging to the need for permanence.  The expectation to experience happiness and fulfillment continuously can lead to great disappointment.  When there is an injury, loss or sense of failure, disappointment can be amplified with a sense of never having resolution or completion.

However, when we look at the natural world, we can see that impermanence abounds.  Seasons change, we breathe in and then let go of our breath. Babies are born, and change over time into adults. People and pets die. Relationships begin and end.  Things fall apart. It is staying with the process instead of running away that peace has the opportunity to arrive. Numbing it out, trying to distract from the process, only prolongs pain. 

By resisting the very nature of things not staying the same, we take ourselves out of experiencing who we are right now. This limits our ability to experience, or to  allow the process of any emotion, situation, or event from being what it is so that it can give us the experience.  It can expand, dissolve, fall apart until a sense of meaning arises. It is from this place that you can experience a sense of timelessness, insight, choice, and letting go.


Story #3: Warrior and Fear

The most difficult times for most of us, is the time we give ourselves. ~Pema Chodron

The Buddhist tenet of “Do no harm’ is a practice that begins with applying this to your Self. Who you are is related to what you practice. As an example, if you are practicing anger in the moment, this is who you are in the moment. That anger can create a number of physical, emotional and mental responses that you can run from the experience right now. It has information for you that in the middle way that  can reveal an awareness that opens you to a gift of something you did not know or expect. It is by taking the labels off your current emotion, relaxing and opening to being with it, that leads you to harmonizing your response to life more intimately. In this way, as you compassionately spend time with your beliefs, attitudes and thoughts, you bring less judgment and blame as you empower your awareness, actions, and choice.

“And I found that I can do it if I choose to – I can stay awake and let the sorrows of the world tear me apart and then allow the joys to put me back together different from before but whole once again.”
Oriah Mountain Dreamer

In doing so, your practice leads you to practice how your respond within, and how you interact with life. By practicing mindfulness, “Do no harm” leads to a greater sense of well-being and peace. Because it is then in your memory bank, you are better able to allow this space and freedom within yourself. As you do so, you can also begin to offer this compassion to others.

 Resonance Repatterning® sessions work with where you are stuck, where you feel things are falling apart. In working with your beliefs, attitudes, and concept of time related to your problems and intentions for your life, you can experience greater sense of peace and harmony.  You are designed for success and self-healing. This process works with your inner software to create tangible and sustainable positive change.

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